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I hate my fvckings family
I'm going to be the drama llama again, so apologies in advance.
Background
Sister hooked up with married guy at my parent's house (where she lives). My dad kicked him out after a week (don'tgetmestarted) and he went home to his wife and family. He is a bipolar and has been in the hospital for a suicide attempt before.
Fast forward to this past weekend. My parents told my sister to cease all communication with said guy or she would be kicked out of the house. This was two weeks ago. Since then, my sister has been amicably chatting with him on Skype and FB. With no recourse. My mother defended this guy to my face yesterday and tried "to prove me wrong". Errr. Just for measure, she has always been like this. Hates confrontation, wants everyone to play nice, will sob down the phone to me, blah, blah, blah.
My mother went ahead and friended this guy today even though she doesn't agree with his actions. WTFFFFFfffffffff
Oh well. I give up. Mentally unstable weirdo. If it weren't for my H's family I wouldn't live anywhere near them.
Re: I hate my fvckings family
eesh. How old is your sister? Thats tough stuff.
I've been trying to keep out of this as much as possible as I don't feel like it's my place. But I needed a somewhere to get this out because it's been hanging over my head lately. I haven't said anything further. I am worried about my sister and where this will take her with no intervention. She is also a DXed bipolar but refuses to medicate.
I would just tell your family that you don't agree, not that it's any of your business, with what's going on and you don't want to hear about it. Period.
Years ago a friend of mine was having an affair with a married man and when she tried to have *** sessions with us about her "relationship" my friend finally told her to shut it. She didn't agree with what she was doing and just didn't want to hear it. It shut the friend up pretty quick. lol
She's 28
Yes she does
All of this.
Plus your assertion that "he is a bipolar" really rubs me the wrong way.
"He is diagnosed with bipolar disorder" or "he has bipolar disorder" are much more appropriate. People are not their diseases or disorders.
Oh yeah absolutely. I understand that. Just feeling a little frustrated about being shunted onto a "side". I don't want anything to do with it.
Oh, sorry. Well, yes he has bipolar disorder would be correct. That would be like me saying I'm a Lyme. Does not compute.
::kisses Monterey::
/psych degree out
*Pseudo feels inadequate*
It's OK! Don't sweat it.
Thanks Frkls! I'm feeling a bit stuck with the whole situation
Yeah, I do get feeling ways about stuff that doesn't technically have anything to do with you. I do this myself. Ex:
http://tinyurl.com/cjsx5u8
i guess from the op i got the sense that pseudo wants a say in how sister and the relationship should be dealt with. (but now, re-reading, i see how the "w/ no recourse" line could just be frustration.) and the mom defending the guy to pseudo was weird to me.
i think i just have very distinct boundaries and high walls w/ my family. i care about stuff that doesn't directly involve me all the time, but i know that voicing my disapproval won't change the situation, so i shouldn't waste my time and energy.
Ding, ding, ding! Yes, exactly. Unfortunately on here is my only outlet for all this. I am beyond frustrated, but trying to argue or change my parents is a waste of my energy and time and not worth it. So I am staying faaarrrr away from it all.
I agree with frkls. It's hard not to get involved when it involves people you love. It's particularly frustrating (and trust me, I know from experience) when you make better decisions than your parents when the right choice seems so obvious. Unfortunately, your sister will never smarten up as long as your parents continue to enable her.
I'm sorry this is happening, and if it were me it would weigh on my mind heavily.
Since when do we only b!tch on here about things that are our own business? Vent away, pseudo.
(I agree with the language choice change Monterey suggested)
I never commented on the OP!
I think you ARE justified in your feelings, it's your sister for cripes sake.
It sounds like your parents are enabling her and that must be frustrating. Your hands are tied because there's nothing you can do about it. It sucks that the wife knows! That's a shiiitty situation. And being bipolar without taking medication is a dangerous road.
I have no advice, other than just maybe talking to her and trying your best to influence her for the better. The situation sucks. Good luck to you.