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Job Question Re: references
I'm applying for this job and I know someone who works in a different dept. He is the spouse of a woman I've hung out with a handful of times and I met him once at a family GTG like a month ago. I emailed them about this position to see if they had any insight about it (he works with the dept that is hiring) and he didn't know much but he said I could list him as a reference.
I feel weird about that. He doesn't hardly know me, kwim? I don't know what sort of questions he could legitimately answer about me. Am I missing something? Would you put him down?
Re: Job Question Re: references
Honesty?
Any "in" is an "in." I'd use him.
I'd email him and thank him for his offer, and ask him if there's anything he needs to see other than your resume to make him feel more comfortable with being a reference.
"You don't get to be all puke-face about your kid shooting your undead baby daddy when all you had to do was KEEP HIM IN THE FLUCKING HOUSE, LORI!" - doctorwho
Rather than use him as a reference, would you be/would he be comfortable referencing your connection in your cover letter? Something like "After talking to (your acquaintance name here), (your acquaintance title here) about (company you want to apply to) I'm very interested in this position".
There's a difference between a personal reference and a professional one.
Professional reference = this person worked for me (way better than "with me") and was an ace at their job.
Personal reference = this person is not a psycho.
My guess is that this person is OK with being a personal reference... and being in the company is a pro.
At my H's company, if he "refers" somebody who eventually gets hired - even somebody in a completely different field, who he never worked with - he gets a cash bonus. So, there's an incentive to "refer" people.
I am the 99%.
I'm guessing he's hoping for a referral bonus. If having him as a reference helps you get the job and he gets a bonus out of it, it is a win-win for everyone!