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What do you think? Dealing with people with disablities
So I am very much a lurker on here; But I really wanted your opinion on this.
I just want to state in an attempt to not be flamed that I having nothing against people with disabilities. I have a disability , ( I have Degenerative Disk Disease which limits the activities I can do) and I have people in people in my life that I are disabled. What I do have a problem with is people using their disabilities to manipulate others.
So today I was at school grabbing something to eat prior to my class. I decided to go to the pub, a burger joint in the school that is very popular which meant I would have a little bit of a wait and I was okay with that. So I stood and waited in line.
After a few minutes and the counter was only four people infront of me, a girl in a motorized chair comes in. She reminds me of Stephen Hawkings: the same posture, same look , and chair. She looks around, sees the line then slowly maneuvers herself into being the next person in line instead of going to the end of the line. As she moves in, she looks at me and the people she is cutting in front of. The look she gives us implies that she is trying to see if we would do anything and that she knew she was cutting in line.
No one stops or corrects her.
The girl in front of me became upset and stomped out yelling that this was ridiculous. She then stares are me and the person in front of me. We decide to let it go, and she places her order. She is evidently a regular, because they knew what she wanted.
So my question is: What would you have done? Is there any way to correct her without coming off as a monster?
Re: What do you think? Dealing with people with disablities
This sounds like a Curb episode.
But please, I have degenerative disc disease and I would NEVER say I have a "disability". Although...can I get a handicapped placard?
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I have a very sever case because I can not have calcium absorption problem which cause my bones to be brittle as well. I currently have to be very careful how I move and what I lift or else I will end up back in the hospital. It has not been recommended for me to not have kids because of it
So, she doesn't have to wait her turn?
I guess it's gracious to let the severly disable co-worker get the perk of cutting the line. If she watches me live my life with all of my able-bodied perks, I suppose she can stare me down with the dare to say "boo" about getting a burger before her.
I get where you are coming from because I've been in situations like this before, but wouldn't attempt to correct her as there is no way off not coming off as a monster.
And did having to wait a few more minutes really fcuk up your day? Yeah, it was annoying, but really, how much of a hardship was it for you? You sort of have to weigh that when deciding if you want to tell the girl on the motorized bike to get her wheels to the back of the line.
No, I don't think it was right, and it sounds a little Helen Keller-ish before she got schooled by Anne Sullivan
I experienced something a little similar last weekend out with my friends. A disabled man in a motorized wheelchair was purposely running into people, knocking drinks on girls (I saw him do this twice), grabbing stage equipment from the band, and lastly as my friend and I were leaving grabbed my assss and than tried to stick his hand up the front of her skirt!!! The bouncer saw it and immediately threw him out than had to get 3 other bouncers to help him carry him up some stairs and out of the club.
At what point does someone say something? I flipped on the bouncer's after he went up my friend's skirt and almost think that if it was someone else that might have been calling in the police? My H says that he would have probably punch anyone else out but a wheelchair-bound man if he had been with us.
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The only similarity between this story and the original story is that the offenders were in motorized wheelchairs. Assaulting people is not the same as cutting in line.
Ass_h@les come in all shapes and sizes. Sometimes they are in wheelchairs.
I work with a lot of disabled people as part of my adaptive ski instruction. Most want to be treated the same as everyone else. They reject any special treatment because it's just another way of emphasizing that they are not able-bodied.
I would have said something, especially if she was staring everybody down waiting for someone to object. I would have probably asked her if there was some reason she couldn't wait in line like everyone else. That way, if she had a good reason, fine, but if not, she would be called out.
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I read, degenerative diick disease and was all like, WHOA!
Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!
I have a disability as well. In your situation I probably would've just let it go.
Now when I was told I was unfit to do my job because of my limited mobility I talked to HR and stuff happened. I super pissed!
I agree. If I see someone with a disability, or elderly, I will politely offer them my place in line, but for someone, anyone to just assume that other patrons are going to allow that kind of behavior is presumptuous and rude. Ok, so you have a disability - that does not mean you are owed anything from anyone. I grow tired of the "poor me" attitude.