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This is dumb. I want to get a tattoo.
My dad's side of the family is Jewish, and SO against marking your body in any way, tattoos included.
What thefluck is the big deal? It's MY body, why is it such a problem? I know it's against the Jewish religion and culture, but I do not even practice the religion.
Would you just do it and deal with your dad making comments about it, or not get it done? This feels retarded since I am so independant from my parents with everything else, and what I put on my own body shouldn't be anyone else's business. At the same time, I really hate disappointing my dad for whatever reason and he has made it pretty clear that he doesn't want me to get a tattoo.
I guess I could get an inconspicious one somehwere and not show it on FB, but I am a FB AW, and I also feel like what is the point if I can't show it.
Re: This is dumb. I want to get a tattoo.
My dad is extremely against tattoos. He even gave me the lecture when I turned 18 about how terrible they are, and how if you get one you will regret it later in life no matter what, and blah blah blah. Well, I now have nine, and we just pretend they don't exist. I don't talk to him about them, and he doesn't mention that I have them. Ignorance is bliss. To be polite, I try to keep them covered when he's around, just because I know they irritate him, and our tactic seems to work well for us.
My mom is Jewish too, and used to tell me that if I ever got a tattoo she would come after me and scratch it off with her fingernail. (And my mother is the kind of woman who can make a threat like this and make you believe it.)
I have three now, and she actually kind of likes them. It helped that I didn't get any of them until I was living completely independently from them, and while she wasn't thrilled about the idea at first, she did get used to it.
I say if you want it, do it.
Whenever I hear Chesh's IRL name I think "Scissor" --MontereyBride
My mom hates tattoos, partially for religious reasons, but both of my sisters and I have tattoos. She cries every time one if us gets a new one, but she gets over it. Get it
ETA don't sucker punch him though. I'd tell him before I posted on FB.
Like everything else in Judaism, there's a loophole. It's the same one that allows for piercing your ears. If it's above the shoulders, it's legally permitted. You could get one on your neck and it would be technically allowed.
But, unless your dad keeps kosher, doesn't use electricity on Shabbat, doesn't cut the sides of his hair, etc, I don't think he's in a place to tell you something you're doing is not Jewish "enough." I hate when people who are not legally observant pick one law and use it to try to manipulate someone else's behavior. He could say he finds tattoos distasteful if that's his opinion.
Also, it's a rumor that you can't be buried in a Jewish cemetery if you have a tattoo, unless it's some sort of ultra-Orthodox section.
You're old enough to make a decision like this without their approval. I have a tattoo and although I'm not Jewish, my parents weren't happy about it but they got over it very quickly. (I didn't tell them about it until they saw it.)
My thought process is that it's my body and I can make my own decision about it. If I were you I wouldn't tell your parents at all. Especially because they don't approve. I'm sure they'll see them one day and be ok with it.
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Does he want ypu to be buried in a family plot or something? You know that won't be possible if you get a tatoo.
Other than that, I can't think of why you shouldn't consider it.
No, he is just weird about certain things and this is one of them.
I am 100% Jewish and I have tattoos...It is my body so who cares.........
My parents used to say that I would not be buried in a Jewish cematary..That said..I did ask a Rabbi (after I got my tattoo) about being buried in a Jewish cematary and he said I would not be allowed to be buried in an Orthodox cemeatary. Since I am reform that is no big deal............
Oh..and my twin and I have matching tattoos.... CLASSY X 2!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
He will just tell me how dumb he thinks it is, and how I will regret it and blahblahblah. He isn't a yeller or anything
LOL Your dad sounds like my dad. I got that lecture too when my brother said that he wanted to get a tattoo. He also has his nose pierced and had his tongue pierced but he took that one out.
I have yet to get a tattoo though I do want one and I would of course place them somewhere where I could hide them.
Oh man, my dad was so excited the day I took out my lip ring. He was much more vocal about the piercings because I was under 18 when I got them. With the tattoos, since I was an adult, he said his peace and never spoke of it again.
lol- I want one. I have nothing to prove, trust me. I don't normally have any kind of power struggle or need to show my independence to my parents at all, which is why it is weird to even have these thoughts at all.
My mom didn't talk to my sister for 3 weeks after she got her first tattoo. (1998)
She just kind of got silently mad at the second one my sister got. (2002)
Rolled her eyes at my first. (2000)
Told me my second one was beautiful. (2004)
My mom has one now. (2009)
That is awesome! lmao
My sister was mad at my mom when she told us about it. (Via vague picture text message). She was all hahahhalalallalalalal I got a tattoo in my mid-life crisis, and my sister went godzilla about my mom's drastic opinion change, and that how could she after the way she treated my sister blah blah blah.
It was a bit ridiculous. And classic for the two of them.
My parents are super strict Mormons (also very anti tattoo) and I felt a lot of guilt when they found out I had gotten one but overall I'm happy with the choice I made. I don't want to cheat myself out of life experiences just because my parents wouldn't approve.
67/200
im jewish, and have a tattoo. if it's that big of a deal to be buried in a jewish cemetary, they can just cut it off.
do it if you want to!
My Poppy was raised super orthodox, and even though he became an atheist, it was really hard for him to get past certain things (the poor man never tasted shellfish his whole life
) and my brother and I getting tattooed was really hard on him.
But he got over it.
LOL I like that your mom got one. And hey my mom got a tattoo..of course it was her eyebrows but she still has one now lol does that count? hehe
My dad started in on me the second I walked in the house with my new tattoo and my GRANDMA checked him right on the spot and told him to shut his mouth because she slipped her blouse off her shoulder and showed him the same tattoo that she got to match mine.
We went together and it was one of the fondest memories I have of my Grandma. Of course, she was known for being "wild" in her day. When she was a very young woman, she once let a man take a picture of her and she wasn't wearing a slip under her skirt and *gasp* you could see the shape of her legs right through her skirt!!!
OMG the scandal. This was back in the early 1930s.
I miss my Grandma so much.
Go get yourself some ink woman!
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Leah I know any. NUmber of people who really regret their tattoos. I don't know anyone who sits around twenty years later and says I really regret not getting a tattoo.