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Rude or Not? WDYT?
When three or more people are hanging out and chatting, is it appropriate to bring up invitation-only events that only a few of you in the group are invited to? Not say, family events, but more like a wedding shower or backyard BBQ?
I say no because it makes the not invited people feel left out, espeically when it's your intention to go on and on about it. But it happens, it seems, whenever I am in a social setting, and little to no effort is made to make it an aside or A/B conversation.
What say PCE? Am I just too sensitive to the uninvited or as an uninvited person?
Re: Rude or Not? WDYT?
No. I mean, really, my mom told me not to do that when I was 5.
I can see the exception being, say, if 2 people work together, but knew each other outside of work first, and have mutual, non-work related friends, and one mentioned, "Hey, are you going to Becky's BBQ?" in the lunch room in front of another coworker. The other coworker would never have been invited to that anyway, you know? But if it's a person all 3 people know, and only 2 are close to that person and were invited, then absolutely not.
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Right - in situations where everyone is peers and you are talking about other peers.
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This. I once was the person that brought up an event because I was completely unaware that a person present had not been invited to it. After discovering my mistake, I felt awful and awkward. Definitely rude if they knew you weren't invited. But if they didn't know, then chalk it up to an honest mistake.
Generally rude. But agree if it is brief and other parties would have no expectation of attending, it's fine. For example my friends A & S used to work together and might mention a party thrown by former coworker I either don't know or have only briefly met.
I try to be very careful about not mentioning social events when I don't know the guest list.
The last time it happened it was for a bridal shower I wasn't invited to but *everyone* else was. It's sort of funny because the bride is a total biatch and they were all whining that they had to go, but still. I'm positive they just aren't thinking/being stupid since that's how a lot of them are normally, it was just - you know - noticeably awkward how stupid they were.
Its happened a few times where I am the one who is asked if I'm invited but i just say, "yeah, I'm going" and change the subject.
welcome to my spin class! We all used to be friends until it turned out a couple of them were racist. Anyway -- they talk all the time in class about how much fun they have...and the plans they have later, and the trip they're going on this week.....
Rude.
You know how we do