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Moving in with MIL?!
My husband and I own a home in our hometown. He works a steady full time job, while I am finishing up school and preparing to build a business as a salon owner. His mother lives a few streets over from us, and lives alone bc her husband died when my husband was just a boy.
Recently we have been discussing selling our home and living with his mother for a few years to save some money and pay off some of our outstanding debt with the money we get left over from selling our home. (student loans/credit cards)
It sounds like a good idea, but I dont know if I could stand living with his mom and him. Since his dad did die young, he is a COMPLETE Mommas boy...which is great, except when she 'competes' with me to get his attention.
I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!
I feel like we should go ahead and do it NOW, so that we can get it out of the way and be living in our own home again when we are ready for kids...
suggestions?
Re: Moving in with MIL?!
You're stupid for even considering this.
But it is stupid.
Do you want opinions or just validation?
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
This is exactly the kind of plan I would expect from someone who would come up with a "so is your face" argument as an adult.
I don't know what in any of this sounds like a good idea to you. You don't want to live with her, he's a momma's boy, and you already have a place to live that isn't hers. Mooching off of her and being miserable in order to pay off debt is just asinine.
Agreed. You are adults. Don't move back in with mommy. I would rather have my sanity and some debt than live with my MIL. You can find a better way to pay this off. Also, there is A) no guarantee your house would sell and
if it does sell, no guarantee that it would sell for more than your mortgage.
My thoughts exactly. If the two of you are so stressed about paying down/off debt, and you do not have children, do one or both of the following:
1) Downsize on the house
2) Get 2nd job(s)
I don't think moving in with your husband's mom is a very good idea in your circumstance.
Have you considered just getting a cheaper place, like an apartment to save money?
This sounds like the worst idea, ever, in the history of bad ideas.
Actually, I take back what I said. He should move in with his mother, you should look into counseling and/or possibly a divorce attorney. Especially if it was your picture he was uploading to porn sites.
http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/65776756.aspx
This is a very bad idea.
NEVER a good ideat to live with a relative or other people.
What caught my attention is this:
It sounds like a good idea, but I dont know if I could stand living with his mom and him. Since his dad did die young, he is a COMPLETE Mommas boy...which is great, except when she 'competes' with me to get his attention
Between this issue and your randy little H uploading pics of his naughty bits on the interwebs, sister, have you got lots of problems.
Show him the door.
BOTH problems are solved: he's out of your life and no more discussion about living with his mom.
It sounds like a good idea, but I dont know if I could stand living with his mom and him. Since his dad did die young, he is a COMPLETE Mommas boy...which is great, except when she 'competes' with me to get his attention.
This entire paragraph is a bunch of contradictions.
It's a good idea, but you don't know if you can stand to live w/ his mom.
He's a COMPLETE momma's boy, which is great. Huh?
I have a feeling YOU know the answer to this, but you have your DH in your ear telling you what a great idea HE thinks it is. Let me guess- his MOM came up w/ this idea? And as such, he thinks it's a GREAT idea?
Am I right?? Huh? Huh?
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Very bad idea. But so is being married to this guy. As an aside, I'm happy that Gloria Steinem has shown up to give her opinion on your marital issues in TIP.
DH and I have a rule: NO living with relatives. Ever. Period.
I suggest the same.
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My advice is don't do it.
However, if you do move in with your MIL, make sure you have a solid Plan B: saved money for a security deposit and first month rent at an apartment. You can save a lot of money living with a relative, but having a back-up plan will help you to be more assertive. If you are living at your MIL's, and you put all of the money from the sale of your house into paying off debt, then you will feel trapped and possibly not speak up enough at MIL's due to fear of her threatening to kick you out at anytime. You don't want to ever give your MIL that power. I did once and it was the worst feeling, and it took several years to repair the damage and reset boundaries.