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Nosy landlord, how would you handle this
Right now we live on the top floor of a two story home, our landlords (an older husband and wife) live underneath. He is the nicest sweetest person, but she has always been a TOTAL b---- to me. We have begun receiving paperwork from the lenders and sometimes our mail gets mixed up, we dont have a definite closing date yet (just a tentative one of July 20th) so we have not told them we were moving but with give them at least 30 days notice as stated in the lease even if we arent given a definite closing date by then. Anyway, I was waiting on my GFE and still had not received, last NIGHT it magically shows up in my mailbox, OPENED with a stamp date of April 11th!, so it was sent almost a month ago!. I have a very strong feeling that she opened my mail and read it but I have no hard proof. I left a message that I wanted to talk to her when I get home but I'm not exactly sure what to say. I am LIVID but I'm trying to keep control of my temper. So I would just like a suggestion of how to handle this in a calm mature manner. Thnx
Re: Nosy landlord, how would you handle this
I wouldn't say anything about the mail. Just keep quiet and be polite - you'll be gone in a matter of weeks. Yes, it's a federal offense, but just take the high road and don't flip out like it sounds like you want to.
JMO, but I think it's super tacky to only give 30 days' notice when you know for sure you're leaving. They don't need an exact date - "hey, we're buying a house and are moving out in July. I'll give you an exact date when we have one - you know real estate, so difficult to nail those pesky lenders down."
And tell everyone involved in the transaction to email you your paperwork in the meantime. (Come to think of it, why hasn't stuff been emailed in the first place? I've never gotten hard copies of anything until the very end when the house was ours and the final copies were for our records.)
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All of this (especially about telling your landlords you are moving).
We have recently purchased and refinanced two different homes with two differnent lenders and nothing prior to closing was mailed through snail mail. Everything was sent electronically.
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Hmmm I thought 30 days notice was standard, that's definitely what's in my lease so I didnt realize I was doing anything wrong. I have no problem telling them now though.
As far as emails, I have gotten mostly email but a few hard copy things have been sent, I'm not sure why. But I will let them know all email communication from now on. The husband called be back and said he doesnt know anything about it and that the postal worker probably messed up. I just told him okay and left it at that...your right I am pissed but I guess its not worth starting a big thing over
how is it tacky when those are the terms of the lease? it's NICE to give extra notice, but it's not tacky not to. it's business. contractually, that is all you're obligated to. nothing more. our lease said 30 days with 45 days requested as a courtesy. we are good tenants and gave 45 days. no way in hell we would have given longer. we are friendly w/our landlords, who live locally and are similar in age to us, but we kept our lips zipped until everything was official. it was not our landlord's business until we nailed down a move-out date and were ready to give the notice specified in our lease.
anecdotal, but a friend was in a month-to-month lease. her landlord found out she was in escrow in a house, gave HER 30 days' notice to get out as she was antsy to rent it. friend's escrow dragged on. she ended up having to move twice.
Agree with all of this.
Anything you can achieve through hard work, you could also just buy.
If the lease says she has 30 days to give notice, then that is all she has to give. Her landlords having to rent the place out after she leaves is not her problem, that is what happens when you own a rental property. I told our landlord we were moving in Feb when I actually had to tell her in April. She was a b@llbuster the entire time. I tried letting her know early and she made my life miserable. Never again.
In the end, everyone is just worried about themselves. It is sad to say that but mostly the truth. You told your landlord about the mail being opened- if it happens again I would reaccess the situation. At that point they are messing with you, and when things are on timeframes etc you can't exactly have that happening.
First, three letters: Just My Opinion. If your experience says you've dealt with shittastic landlords who do shady things, fine. Mine says if you treat people with respect and courtesy, you get it back. I still say it's tacky to know and not say anything. I will always tell a landlord (I'm talking about a person, not an apt community) what our plans are. We're renting when we move next year, after owning 5 homes, and I will treat whatever landlord how we like to be treated by our tenants: that we enormously appreciate advance notice in all matters, large or small.
Next, in my state at least, your friend was illegally evicted unless she was going month-to-month. Here, a landlord can't just end a lease because they feel like it. They cannot end a lease without proof that you either violated the terms of the lease or state law. Of course, this doesn't apply for month-to-month situations when a landlord can request you leave with 30 days' notice.
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I'd be pissed too!
Is there another address you can use as your mailing address: work, family? If not, consider a PO Box for a short while?
While I'd be pissed too, I'd just try to get out of there ASAP. You can file charges later! LOL
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