Trouble in Paradise
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Stolen from MM: Stupid reasons for friendship dissolution
What are your reasons? Were you the one defriended or were you the one doing the defriending in the friendship?
Re: Stolen from MM: Stupid reasons for friendship dissolution
Either I guess Kuus. Most of my friendships that have ended badly weren't really great to start with although I have lost some friends that I thought I was close to over some dumb things.
I've never had a dramatic friend break up... Usually it's a friendship of convenience (like coworkers) and when one of us moves away or changes jobs we don't keep in touch.
DH once stopped talking to his neighbor because the neighbor went out and tore down the fort they built together in the woods. He still holds a grudge all these years later. Other friends who knew him at the time confirm that this fort was more like eight logs stacked in the rough approximation of the beginnings of a log cabin. It was not nearly as Swiss Family Robinson as I was imagining it to warrant such a response.
I haven't had any stupid dramatic endings to friendships. But one of the reasons I eventually stopped being friends w/ a roommate was over spices.
Even to this day, I can still vividly remember buying a jar of AllSpice. There was something I was making that called for it, so I bought it. DH (then BF) was over making something, asked roomie if he could use it, she said "yes". I said something about "oh- that's mine anyhow".
A couple days later I come home to find all the spices now put away in HER cabinet. When I asked her about it, she gave me some flimsy excuse, and when I mentioned the AllSpice, she got REALLY pissy w/ me about how it was ABSOLUTELY hers. I was like "O.k. - keep the $3 bottle of spice.... enjoy".
And it was after that that she started marking stuff like her vegetable oil so if I used any, she would be able to tell. There were a few other odd things that she started doing (like putting HER trash in her own trash bag so that she wouldn't have to take mine out too).
When we moved out, we quietly went our seperate ways and didn't talk again.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
My college roommate wound up deciding she hated me because:
1) she met DH before I did so it was unfair he was dating me, she had dibs.
2) I didn't understand how horrible her life was when she was having trouble getting into grad school and her dad and step mom announced they were having a baby. She made this declaration 3 weeks after I found out my Mom was dying of cancer.
I can't say I miss her. I've let some other friendships purposely lapse but over accumulated growing apart type things.
I emailed a friend to say hi because I hadn't talked to her in ages and I wanted to catch up. She emailed back and said this was funny coming come me, seeing as she emailed me 3 times to get my address and I never emailed back. I wrote back and apologized, saying I had never received an email from her and perhaps she had sent them to the wrong address?
I never heard from her again.
I had someone end our friendship because my H lost his job and I couldn't agree to all her demands for her wedding party anymore. It sucked. I tried to talk to her about it and ask if I could not do some of the stuff we couldn't afford (I'd already purchased my dress even, it was just hair, make-up, staying two nights in a hotel, etc., taking a day off work, driving down separate from my husband so double to travel costs, etc.) but she said she didn't want to have to worry about me dropping out later so I said I understood and I hoped we could be friends still and she agreed.
Two days later I got a nasty email that she didn't want me to come to her bridal shower.
BFP #4 It's a BOY!
CP: July 2011
BFP #3: 11/3/2011 M/C 12/12/11
We miss you and love you always, little firecrackers!
I've never really had a stupid reason for ending a friendship. I did quit speaking to a friend for like 2 weeks in the 7th grade because of a boy. But we got over that quickly enough.
I defriended a person I knew in high school on FB because she made three status updates in a row about how excited she was about a Juggalo gathering of some sort. I had no idea prior to this that she was that level of moron.
Best friend refused to come to my wedding with inconsistent excuses about money, job, family... never the same one twice. We even told here we would pay for her plane ticket and other expenses... we just wanted her there to celebrate with us. She never came. I think it was because I asked my cousin to be my maid of honor instead of her. Petty petty petty.
I miss our talks.