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Opinions on my date last night...
Had a first date with a guy last night. We had a nice Italian dinner and then when we were done he asked me if I had time to do something else. We were going to go to Main Event (bowling, billards, etc) but then he wanted to go to a place that you can eat/drink while watching a movie. So we get there and he picks out the movie (The Raven...i had no idea what is was about), and we go in.
Shortly into the movie we are holding hands and kiss. He is very touchy feely of my legs during the movie. He was holding my leg (thigh) from the inside of my leg and was slowly working his way up my leg. I stopped him when he was about ~4 inches away from my crotch bc I didnt know if he was going there or what but NO way am I doing that on a first date in a movie theater! He did stop when I moved his hand and didnt try again.
This really kinda put me off...am i over-reacting?
ETA: I was put off by that (hand going up), him picking the movie without really asking me, and him wanting to go to a movie instead of playing pool. AND I got a "good morning gorgeous" text this morning...UGH
Re: Opinions on my date last night...
Nope...not over reacting. IMO, that's too much on a first date. Hell, I don't even like watching movies on the first few dates, because you really can't get to know the person. Unless you just want to make out with them.
I'd be put off.
No overreaction at all. Don't be trying to touch my lady parts on a first date (unless I expressly tell you to).
ETA: I'm no prude and I wouldn't like this.
Me neither.
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You are not overreacting! PLEASE trust me because I had this exact issue happen and I didn't listen to my gut and completely regretted it.
I went on a second date with a "great" guy who kept doing this exact thing. We were at dinner and he did this right in public, multiple times and I had to tell him to stop. He made it seem like he just couldn't help it or didn't mean it or whatever else. Since he was a perfectly nice in every other way, I let it pass. We actually had a convo on what was acceptable behavior in public and during our dates. He seemed receptive so I got over it.
Well on our 4th date I thought it was safe enough to invite him over to my place (I know stupid)...I told him from the start I did not want to sleep with him. Yeah...he kept trying and trying and not respecting me. The fact that we were not in public only made him act worse. He would not leave me alone and was so insistent. I had to eventually kick him out of my place b/c I got so fed up.
The little behaviors you don't like early on in dates only get worse and magnified later so don't even go down that route. There is no reason he needs to be touching you like that on the first date.
As an aside, I'm now imagining him as this guy, and he's saying "Mi scusi!" when you move his hand.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
He "did" ask me but the way he phrased it made it seem like that was my only option, ya know? I told him I had never heard of it.
all this. It's not prudish to not want him to just grab your vajayjay on a first date in a theater - he just sounds like a d!ck
This! Sounds like he was much more interested in making out than getting to know you.
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Oh, well if you would have responded with the fact that you had never heard of it, I would have said, "Would it be something you would like to see, or is there something else you would prefer to see?"
He rubs me the wrong way and I would not see him again.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
Same here. Heck, I liked the guy who only gave me a hug on the first date! I'm often put off by anything other than a simple good night kiss at the end of a first date.
Eh....we didnt start right away once the movie started.
But yes, he did make me uncomfortable when he started moving his hand up. Plus in general, he was overly touchy feely for a first date!
I am moving on...