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Stolen from MM- Stupid reasons for friendship dissolution
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Totally lurked this out of MM, but what are some amazeballs reasons friendships ended for you?
"Here. This puppy is a metaphor for how you piss on my feelings and take a crap on my dreams."
Re: Stolen from MM- Stupid reasons for friendship dissolution
Today Instead of Working
Whaat the whaa? Crazy!
My good friend from college asked to be my MOH as soon as I got engaged, then asked to come visit multiple weekends in a row (we live 4 hours apart) to go to appointments, totally blew me off and never called or texted (she did this for four weekends in a row). Since she had asked to be in my wedding party, I just moved on with planning and figured she'd just didn't want in anymore, but we'd already started to grow apart so it wasn't a huge loss, and frankly, I didn't wanna deal with the drama.
So I was just done with it and didn't contact her, and she texted me a month later asking why I was mad at her and missed calling her on her birthday. She tells everyone we had a huge, dramatic falling out, which is ironic because it was the most quiet/non-communicative falling out ever.
My two HS best friends didn't come to my wedding. One of them said she couldn't take the time off work (just one saturday, it wasn't a destination wedding or anything), and the other called me the night before to say he wasn't feeling up for it.
Now I feel like it was stupid, but at the time I was butthurt and stopped calling them. They strangely stopped calling me too.
We are now FB friends, but it is not the same obviously.
So, there was this guy and his friends that we were mutually hanging out with. She said she had no interest in said guy, or any of his friends. I originally crushed on one of the friends, but then lost interest. We still all hung out.
Then, I realized that I was seriously in love with said guy. The feeling was intense. We hung out solo once, and it escalated from there. Then this biitch up and says she had liked him the entire time and was bummed nothing had come of it, although she had since begun dating said guys bff.
Then, after we had been exclusive for almost a year, she told him that I was talking to an ex, and told me he was talking to an ex. Conniving hor, lol. Our relationship was ruined. And then, to top it off, she stopped talking to me. While continuing her own relationship.
He was a great guy. We never fought, we had a blast hanging out, and I would probably still be with him today. But it's all good, because I met H and we have been best friends since almost day one. Then I recently friended said guy on facebook and realized I dodged a bullet. LOL
Sorry this is so long. Sadly, its a short version of the crazy.
Junior year of college, I move into my first apartment with my college friend, K, and two friends from high school who were transferring to my uni, W and R. They were a couple. We all got along great and hung out a lot in the apartment during the summer before classes started and into the first semester.
During this time I broke up with my high school boyfriend of 3 years. There are a lot of reasons for that, but its another story. Anyways, R and W are wanting to hang out with me all the time. At first its great to have two friend be there for me during the break-up, but after a few weeks, I'm kind of over it and they are starting to smother me. They text me constantly when I'm in class about our plans for later and start to act weird when I'm out with other friends. During one of their many fights, W tells me that R is essentially upset that I'm not emotionally dependent on her and is insecure about me having other, better friends. ....oooookay.
I start seeing a guy from one of my classes, S. We're sleeping together and I'm starting to stay at his place. I don't tell R and W about this because, honestly, its not their business and I'm not sure where its going. They start getting pissy again, about my "absence" at the apartment. On a trip home with R, we're hanging out with a mutual friend and I mention to said friend that I kindda dig S. R goes ballistic because I didn't tell her first. She stops talking to me and makes W stop talking to me, too. I essentially move out of the apartment and in with S because of the tension. K is smart and stays the eff out of it.
We live out the rest of the lease with a lot of tension and another big blow-out where R texts me instead of W that "the *** is back at our place" and I have to lay into R about whose name is on the lease and the utilities (mine, not theirs, because I'm the only one with credit) and that they better respect that or I can turn the power off. This shuts them up permanently.
We haven't spoken since. K hasn't spoken to them, but we remain good friends. R and W have since broken up, from what I've heard, because R got angry at W for enjoying her major more and making more friends than R.
Also, they were slobs as roommates and I had to take all the kitchen-stuff home because of how messy they were. I had to throw several pans away because I couldn't get the caked on food off. Oh, those pans weren't in the sink, they were put away as "clean".
Damn. Good riddance!
Our joint friend was coming home for a visit. There was one night we could all get together (there were 5 of us) and J had to work. It was a slow night at the resturaunt where she worked, and so I suggested that we could come there and she could hang out and be our waitress (I worked in the same place and knew kind of how it went- this would not have been a problem). She got mad and sat at the bar the whole time we were there and ignored us. It was dumb, especially since our friend K was only in town for the night, and J and another friend were underage, and K and I were heading to meet more friends in our college town at a bar.
Because when DH and I started dating and was trying to get to know my friends, one in particular felt he was getting 'into her business' so she stopped talking to me.
Oh well.
I lost an entire group of friends when H and I started dating.
Apparently multiple guy friends of mine had feelings for me, an the "leaders" of our group got irritated by it and said that I needed to pick a guy to date so that everyone else could quit focusing on me. I wasn't interested in any of them, so I told them they were being idiots, and that I couldn't control how others acted around me.
Well, around that time I met H (from my hometown so they all knew him, but he wasn't part of the group) and when we started dating I figured it would make everyone happy and things could go back to normal. Of course, that wasn't how it worked out. My friends decided that I had made the wrong choice, that I shouldn't be dating him, and actually lied to me about things he had supposedly done (he tried to hurt his ex-girlfriend, he wrecked his last car street racing, said they had a "bad feeling" about him, etc).
I did my research and found out that they were complete a total lies. When I confronted my "friends", they couldn't give me any real, good reasons why they made up these lies, just that I should have picked one of the other guys for no particular reason. At that point I told them that I was done, that he was who I wanted to be dating, and that if they didn't like it that's too darn bad.
The whole group stopped speaking to me, and I ended up marrying H (obviously).
i was too outgoing and when we went places together, boys talked to me more than they did to her. because when they asked questions and stuff, i answered instead of staring at the floor and mumbling something monosyllabic. this was junior year of high school.*
*what makes this extra hilarious is that she approached me about this, solemnly, in an effort to get me to change my entire personality so that we could stay friends. because of all the talking i'd done. with boys. at the national catholic youth convention. we were talking about god and service projects and stuff. i'm serious.
This girl thought it would be cool to make the sex with my ex husband. So I stopped talking to her.
Then it happened with another one.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
I'm scrolling through way late but I have the best answer to this so I have to contribute.
I had a friendship end because of Arby's.
I had this group of girls that I used to go out with every Friday night during the year before I got married. It got expensive and I was pretty broke. So one night they were going out for sushi then to the bar. (A separate bar.) I am lukewarm on sushi and my roommate actively hated it, so we were like, "You know we haven't had forever and sounds awesome? Arby's." So we said, "Hey guys, we're going to hit up Arby's and then meet you at the bar later."
And then we learned that the leader of the Girls Night Out group had very strict "in for a penny, in for a pound" rules about the activities of Friday Girls Nights and our decision to indulge in delicious 99 cent roast beef sandwiches instead of sushi was an affront to the integrity and mission of the group. So we were ousted. It was bizarre.
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I don't know. I have had a couple of dissolved friendships for reasons that I still to this day have no clue what I did, or where it went wrong and never got an explanation. Good times!
Oh god, a genuinely stupid one, my childhood bff suddenly stopped speaking to me and pretty much dropped all contact. Later, she tells my mom that we just weren't good for each other or some odd shitt.
I get the distinct impression she blames me for her shitty decision to marry her first husband despite the fact that I totally told her not to.
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Because we had a baby.
After they were gone though, we didn't miss them.