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Re: ***JM***NFT!!!
Alright, RP can chime in here too: Here is the situation:
-met this guy on POF 3 months ago. We hang out on a regular basis (usually swim/train together). He invited me to go to his race expo and dinner afterwards. RiverPestie and her BF ended up meeting him there. She and her bf thinks he likes me.
my question is, from a guy's prespective, would you swim/train with a girl that you didnt like? Or just considered as a friend? Keep in mind, he wakes up at 6am on his days off to come swim with me. Also, last week for the first time, he came over to my house and we hung out all night and I made us dinner.
I know he is not dating anyone and he took his profile down, but am confused...RP thinks I need to talk to him, but I think he should do the talk and I should just wait. What are your thoughts?
p.s. we text a lot too.... its pretty flirty texts too
I have to go to crossfit, but will respond afterwards, thanks!
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
Post hijack!
But I do want to see what JM has to say.
IMO, a guy would hang out with a chick just to train, if he needed a training partner. Howevah, I don't think he would invite you out to dinner, come hang at your house "all night" and have dinner with you again if he wasn't interested.
What is his body language and tone?
I don't adhere to the "man must do the approaching" rule. Why not just talk to him yourself? Then you won't be confused!
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
This is very true.....
We are swimming tonight together....any suggestions for what to say and how to handle this? I am "ok" with bringing this up and talking to him about it today.
Any physical intimacy yet? And yes, I mean holding hands, kiss, etc.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
This is exactly what I have been trying to say.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
Hmmmm. Does he have other male friends? Other female friends?
I have trained with 2 women:
One I started dating very early on before she moved away.
The other is my co-worker. She runs about 6 marathons a year and I run with her over lunch sometimes because she doesnt want to run alone. She is everything I would ever want in a woman except for the fact that she is happily married. We have been running for a year together and never had any physical intimacy and only hung out once outside of work (it wasnt planned we just bumped into each other).
It really sounds like this guy is into you, I just cant figure out why he hasnt made a more official move. Or maybe he is scared to ruin a good friendship he has with you.
It wouldnt kill you to be blunt with this guy and just ask him what his intentions are.
Yes I would train with a woman whom I did not have a dating interest in.... a guy can be only interested in just being a workout friend, but this does not seem to the case in your situation.
She is going to Xfit, so I am answering for her. No, there hasn't been physical intimacy, yet. I think he is shy and she is waiting for him to make the first move, so IMO, I think they are both confused and waiting for the other person to make the move.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
Sounds like it. Well, IMHO there are two ways of handling it:
1) Talk to him. Say something like: I really like hanging out with you and have a lot of fun. How about we make this an official date?
Okay that was corny and bad but it is all I can come up with right now.
2) Go for the sly approach. If you cross the street, just grab his hand or something. This will show him that you are okay wtih taking if further.
Just make a damnn move, woman!
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
I vote she grabs his wang in the pool and says, "this is cool, right?"
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
:::shrugs:::
Yeah, that would work too.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04