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Boyfriend not exactly "faithful" ?
my boyfriend and I have almost been dating for a year now. we use to live close but due to us both being military and stationed in different places we have been long distance for the past 6 months, since he gets paid way more than i do HE insists on paying for my plane tickets to go see him once or twice a month. on average a ticket is abot 500. now with that being said i have caught my boyfriend on multiple occasions flirting and "sexting" with other girls... none of these girls are even remotly close to where he lives so i know they dont hang out or intend on hanging out. I got really mad at him this last time and really blew up at him about it and he said he wouldn't do it any more and he states he doesn't do it because he actually likes them he does it because he is lonely and that our (his and mine) texting is almost constant and the conversation is always the same. he came up with the idea that we don't text a whole lot during the day and replace that with a phone call every night. that seems to have really helped our relationship and he doesn't talk to other girls anymore but im still upset for his reason in the first place. why be with me? why spend all that extra money on me if your just gonna text other girls. I feel like im being ridiculous that i cant get over it i mean look what he does for us to be together, but at the same time am i just making excuses for him? what do you think?
Re: Boyfriend not exactly "faithful" ?
He's a skank.
Get another boyfriend.
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Being 'not exactly faithful' = cheating.
dump his idiot ass.
and why be with you? because he wants all the women that will give him the time of day. At the same time. Which is where your problem lies. (lays? whatever)
Cheating "a little bit" is like being "a little bit pregnant". You either are or you're not.
He is.
DTMFA.
Seriously? Omg.
There is no gray area when it comes to cheating and being faithful. Why is this not common sense?
Yes, you're making excuses for him. You've only been w/ him a year. Dont' invest more time in him. His flying you to see him isn't some sign of anything, to be honest. If anything, it's a GREAT cover because it's working - "as long as I pay fo rher to come here, she won't REALLY think I'm cheating on her".
And now he's learned he can have his cake and eat it too.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
There shouldn't be quotes around faithful. YWIA HTH
Honestly,
If its this easy for him to cheat when your relationship is still New, what makes you think he won't once you've been married a couple of years? TRUST ME, get out NOW before your too emotionally envolved! He will hurt you. Sexting IS cheating! Your worth more than that! There are PLENTY of amazing men who stay faithful!
This.
"Not exactly faithful" is *not faithful*.
There is scientific evidence that there are two types of men: womanizers & those who crave a partner/home/monogamous relationship. Which would you rather spend your time, and heart's energy/love, on?
I spent 20 years dating unavailable, unfaithful, or lying men (and even married one, at an early age). Take it from me, it's better to learn to like nice men now than to wait until you've spent years trying to believe their lies & subterfuge, THEN learn to like nice men. I finally realized that a good man is priceless, after finding a nice man & marrying him... Easy & sweet is the BEST, and far better than uncertainty & tears!!
You *deserve* to be adored, loved, and treated with honesty & respect. Demand nothing less, and start by releasing yourself from a guy who is so obviously nothing but trouble. Yes, it will be sad for a while, but better to do it now, so you can heal & be ready for a nice, kind man who will treat you as the treasure you are.
This. Don't get married, start a family with this jerk you will regret it. Would it be exceptable if you where "sexting"?
In NICU for one week born 7-6-11
MDC- 10-2-96 CEC- 4-12-98 EEC- 3-10-01
This. Don't get married, start a family with this jerk you will regret it. Would it be acceptable if you where "sexting"?
In NICU for one week born 7-6-11
MDC- 10-2-96 CEC- 4-12-98 EEC- 3-10-01
Get rid of him. This isn't normal at all! He is not to be trusted.
This.