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Scheduling Problems! Help!
Hey guys!
My husband and I have been married for almost 3 months now! He has recently taken a job that works him from 5pm to 3am and I work 7am to 5pm. It sucks sooo bad! I have regular weekends and he has Sundays and Mondays free, but only 2 days with his is driving me crazy! Any advice on how to create some together time. We don't have any intimate time together during the week, which makes them go on forever!! I am just so frustrated, but I don't want to burden him with all of my frustrations about the scheduling because I know a jobs a job and we are in need of the money right now to pay off student loans and (stupid) credit card bills.
He will occasionally have lunch with me at work, but that cuts his sleep short... I am just out of ideas on how to spice things back up. We had a great sex life before this and now we are both a bit dry... help please!!!!
Re: Scheduling Problems! Help!
My immediate thought is like a love note mystery game. Start leaving him notes for when he wakes up giving him clues about maybe a new piece of lingerie or new toy/position/location/role play game etc. that you are going to use together during the two days you actually get to see each other. Each day leading up to it could be a new sexy clue for him to read and think about all day and all week leading up to it!
Your situation really sounds like it stinks but I'm glad you have a positive attitude about it being what needs to happen right now- even though it is far from what you want/expected.
I've heard others say that scheduling sex works for them when they hardly get to see their H. I can see how the anticipation as well as sexy notes/texts throughout the week would be good foreplay.
Also make Sundays your date day/night. Just spend time with each other.
Re: Scheduling Problems! Help!
I've heard others say that scheduling sex works for them when they hardly get to see their H. I can see how the anticipation as well as sexy notes/texts throughout the week would be good foreplay.
Also make Sundays your date day/night. Just spend time with each other.
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I feel you on this one! During our first 6 months of marriage, I worked banker's hours (9AM-5PM) and DH worked retail (5PM-11PM). I got weekends free. He didn't. We were lucky to have on day a month that we were home together for more than an hour or two. And it meant that we had sex less than once a week. I hated it! And we only lasted a year on that schedual before it was either the job or our marriage. Luckily, DH was able to land another job, but we still struggle with balancing our time together. You really need to make the most of the time you have. That means no chores, phone calls, or other distractions from each other on the day you DO get to spend together. It never gets easier, so for your sake, I hope this isn't a forever job.
DH and I have always worked opposite schedules. So we never had much time together. It was a little different because we'd get an hour or two a day together but 7 days a week one or the other of us had to be at work so we never had a day together without taking time off. (Now we have a kid so it's even crazier!)
My best suggestion is to take the time you have alone to do EVERYTHING you need to get done. Cooking, cleaning, laundry, appointments, paying bills etc. That way when you do have time together, you can spend it just focused on one another. And ditto PP who suggest scheduling sex. Maybe find a hobby or join a gym to help you pass time faster during the week. Good luck!