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Say Anything Thursday
Let's keep this board moving today! What's on your mind?
Re: Say Anything Thursday
AW: It's my Friday! I was bummed when I found out I didn't get PTO with this job, but I don't even care right now because I'm so excited by having a 4-day weekend. I cannot wait for this day to be over so that I can get started on it.
AW2: I picked up a new anti-frizz product the other night and last night took a shower and used it on my hair. I'm having a kickass hair day today, despite the humidity. Sold!
AW3: My new boss is amazeballs. He just had a lengthy conversation with all of us on the team about a possibly WFH schedule - letting us do one or two days/week at home, depending upon what's going on at the time (some activities will require that we be together and interact). He'll need to broach it with someone else, and he's going to wait a week or two to approach about it, but I am SO excited by the prospect. I am so, so blessed in this job.
Vent: I was REALLY excited to have an entire Friday to myself to sit at home, relax, read, nap, watch TV shows - but I have some running I'm going to have to do. It's not a huge deal and it will be find, but I'm kind of bummed. Saturday's also going to be spent in the car to drive to-and-from DE for a family wedding. I'm excited to attend it, but ugh, the drive.
Confession: M's teacher called me this morning for a conference and went on to praise how smart, confident, and mature M is. I can't stop smiling and I want to brag to everyone I know about how awesome my kid is, even though I know it would be wrong. I posted it on FB, though, so I guess that's kind of the same thing? Oh well. I dig my kid.
first of all i miss it over here! sorry i have been absent. I am so slammed at work that I had to force myself not to log on every day for fear of missing deadlines. its really a scary amount of work and there are huge consequences if we don't finish it on time.
I am a total disaster and really can't get my sh*t together. I need new clothes so bad. everything is either too small or falling apart. even if i had money for a new wardrobe, i can't seem to find time to go shopping. my house is a wreck.
I feel like I am favoring DS2 over DS1 lately and it makes me feel like a jerk. I am sure it is because DS2 is a sweet, cuddly, smiley dream baby who hasn't learned to talk back and throw tantrums yet but i find myself losing patience with DS1 all the time. He fights me on everything-what he is going to wear in the morning, going to bed, what he eats, going #2 on the potty-UGH.
Hi Remy!! I miss you. Your ticker is wrong BTW, there is NO WAY you have a 7 month old already.
A few of us gathered in my boss's office yesterday for a conference call. Something important came up and I picked up my pen to write it down. After I did that, my boss snapped his finger and pointed to my paper. I told him I already had my pen in my hand to write it down ( I wanted to tell him I'm not his secretary because I'm not but I bit my tongue). He treats the women in the office like they're stupid, including my supervisor. He retires next month
We are going to Hershey Park on Sunday--I am so excited to see how Ava reacts. I think she's going to have a ball.
I love seeing the girls interact with each other--it makes my heart melt. They both love DS which is also so cute to watch. Ava will say "he's my best brother."
I'm in the same boat as Remy with the clothing situation. I need a new wardrobe. I also need to lose about 40 lbs and I have no motivation to do it.
AW: Last night C sleep for 4.5 hours straight before getting up at 1:45a.m. to feed again. I woke up, thinking I might of missed her feeding. Both DH and I need sleep.
AW2: A is finally showing interest in potty training, I just hope that she figures it out soon. She's peeing in the potty at daycare and at home (still having accidents with pooping) Any suggestions or advice??
Today I filled out my time sheet for the first time in three months, I can't wait to get a full pay check (in two weeks). Next week my boss is out all week long and I plan to finally read the Hunger Games series. The books are waiting for me at the library tonight.
Mine are mostly vents, sorry I am grumpy:
#1: It is hot and getting hotter. I teach in a non-airconditioned school in the classroom that the rest of the teachers call "the pizza oven" The room is in an odd location and therefore get sun all day, yet the breeze is blocked. I am seven months pregnant and whinny. I just have to get through two more weeks then I can sit in the air conditioning.
#2: I handle the family money and bills. My DH is NOT good with a budget, so it is best left to me. He had always gotten $150 per pay check to do with what he needed. A few years ago, his work started giving him $500 a month expense money for the fact he does work at home sometimes. He keeps this money as well. So he gets $800 a month to do with as he wishes. He pays his gas and his 'fun" money and lunches. There was a time that he was going over this amount of money a month (told you he sucks with money) and was using family funds. I told him no more, he has to live in that means. I have a budget, so does he. He has gotten better and there are things he wants to save money for so he wants to stop eatting out so much and have me buy him stuff for lunch. He used the family card, without telling me which I hate since it messes up my check book balance, to get some lunch stuff at the grocery store.
My annoyance, you want me to basicly pull funds from the family, so that you don't have to spend your money on things you need so you can save for more fun things for you... I don't think so. I feel that he needs to buy his lunch stuff out of his money just like if he was eating out everyday. I don't budget nearly the money he gets a month for my gas and things I want. He is so tight fisted with his monthy money when it comes to the family. He is going to need a new car in a year or so, he has been looking at pretty pricey cars. When I told him that I would have X down payment ready for him at the time and that the buget was X a month the rest he would have to cover, he got mad and was like "well never mind I will find a cheaper car"
None of this may make sense, and I may just be a grumpy prego today. But I am just annoyed.
What anti-frizz product? Do tell!
I was going to post the same thing! Please do tell (coming from someone who has had her hair pulled back all week b/c of humidity)
Bed Head Anti-Frizz Serum! My hairdresser, who also has curly hair, has always told me that she really loves the BedHead line, and I have a Curls Rock spray from them that I love. I needed something heavier to smooth the frizz, though, so I picked up the Anti-Frizz Serum at Target the other night, used it last night, and I can see a major difference. I use TreSemme' mousse or the Curls Rock spray first and make sure I work it through while it's wet, then I use about a dime-sized amount of the serum (my hair isn't super long, but it's thick), emulsify, and run through all over it. It's like a new head of hair today.
I hate being micromanaged. Especially when two micromanagers have conflicting opinions on what I should be doing.
I'm going to be on a reality show!! I've been pretending it's NBD but I actually think its kind of awesome
My far-fetched dream is to be a guest on Ellen or Jimmy Fallon lol
I am worried about looking fat and/or stupid on cameraUmm...I know. i dont where it's going. I'm a little sad that he's growing up so fast, since we are done I am trying to enjoy my sweet baby while he is still small.
I thought of another. Some of the new people my company has hired are SO socially awkward. It is painful to try and have a conversation with them. it really makes me wonder about the younger generation who has spent more of their time communicating online and through texting than having real conversations with people.
Vent: H is heading to NYC for the next two days for training for work and I'm jealous that I'm not with him. I'm also annoyed that they sprung this on us on Tues, so even if I could get off, there wasn't enough time to plan.
FF Confession: I cry everyday on my way to work missing my friend who passed away in March. I'm also very bitter with her family for not having a service or even acknowledging her death. No obit, no service, no nothing. I hate having these feelings, but I don't think it's fair to her memory.
AW: I'm kinda glad His going to be away for a few days.I can clean and jam to my songs all day. I may take tomorrow of just because
Ummmmm WHAT?!?!?! Details please!
AW - DD was sick yesterday and needed to take ibuprofen. We have NEVER been able to get her to take meds by mouth, DH has gotten her to do it by masking it w/ chocolate syrup and making a big deal about it, I have never been able to do it. Yesterday, she took Motrin w/o complaint from the nurse at the doctor's office and only a little encouragement. We tried the saem thing at home last night and had total failure, I even had DH try it solo b/c I get so anxious about it, I think I make it worse. She was again having NONE of it and ended up telling DH she hated on him (LOL!) and crying, even though he offered her some chocolate ice cream if she took it. I'm not sure how I did it, but when I went to put her to bed, I managed to get her to drink all the meds before bed w/ no tears or tantrums. This is like a major motherhood accomplishment for me.
Vent 1 - I'd really like to be home w/ DD again today, but I think I'm skating on thin ice at work and felt like I really needed to be here.
Vent 2 - I'm responsible for paying the CC bill every month (which is due tomorrow). I jsut checked the bill and I don't have enough to cover it. I have to ask DH for additional funds and I'm sure he'll be pissed even though we both over spent obviously. I always feel guilty about the bills even though I'm not the only one who incurs these expenses.
Confession - I'm a little concerned I might get fired, I think they are just kinda over me.
That last line? Me, too. I take all the stress of the bills on even though I'm not the only one who spends money in our house.
Hugs. I'm so sorry and it's so sad they didn't do anything for her. It's nice for the people who pass but it's especially important for the family and friends around the person gone to honor and remember them. It's a shame you were cheated of that. Maybe there is something small you can do in her honor...go to a special place the two of you shared and have a moment of closure? Time doesn't heal all wounds but it does get easier.
Someone's getting a little brother!
You should if you can, because traffic in Annapolis is going to be a disaster!
TLC has a 13 episode show about my airline that starts tonight. I know I'm in a few episodes but I don't know how many. At least 4 episodes
And **hugs** for the loss of your friend. It's ok to still be grieving.
I felt like that for a while, well before we got really busy here anyway. I totally admit to just coasting for the past couple of years and not really doing anything to advance myself. Plus all my work friends have gradually left and have been replaced with young, fresh out of college people who don't have families and will work longer hours for less pay (even though I take my laptop home every night and work after the kids go to bed, my bosses don't see that though). So I feel like they were looking at me like I was deadweight. I feel secure right now but when we slow down again I won't.
I took a me day yesterday and I LOVED it--facial, haircut/color, and pedicure. It was perfectly spread out and I felt so relaxed. I even stopped by the Tasti DLite (or however you spell it) and it was delicious.
I am kind of ticked off at DH right now. He gets mad and will let you know it by telling you. When I get mad, I can't be mad in his eyes. He tries to deflect the anger/upsetness that I am having and turn it around on me. Let me be mad at you!! You have no problem telling me when something is bothering you, but I can't do the same. Argh...
Oh $hit, I forgot about that! I may leave early. Thanks for reminding me!
Vent: My 41 year old step sister has decided to end her 15 year marriage and has moved back in with my parents. There are soooooo many details surrounding this, but she is basically financially irresponsible (it's so so bad), and acting like a 16 year old. My step dad has been out of town for almost the past 2 months for work and my mom has had to deal with all the crap and it's taking a toll on her. She's exhausted from dealing with the drama and my SS asked my mom to co-sign on a car for her. 1) she had a seizure 2 weeks ago and wrecked her car, she is ok, but the car is wrecked and the car was a month old, she just bought it 2) her DH (because she is still married and is dating someone, but that's a whole other issue) promised to pay a few of their many (maxed out) credit card bills, and didn't so in the last 2 weeks her credit score has dropped over 100 points and she can't get a loan on her own 3) my parents have given her a car to use, granted it's a 1997 escort and crappy, but they are letting you live rent free and letting you borrow a car for free and it's not good enough for you WTF? 4) both she and her DH are in such financial disaster both are going to file for bankruptcy. Seriously there is so much more drama that I just can't type it all out. But I'm so pissed that she, the oldest out of all 4 of us (my sister and other SS) is acting like a child and it's stressing my mom out and it's just not fair to my mom.
confession: for some odd reason I feel guility for not giving DS a brother. I have a sister who I am very close to and DH has 2 brother he is very close to and this irrational part of me feels guilty that DS wont have a same sex sibling to have that relationship with. Someone with a brother tell me I'm crazy. DH thinks I've lost it.
My OB has not been positive about my VBAC, I've been so frustrated. We finally met with a midwife practice and they were so supportive and positive. They said, if you come in and tell us that you want to go for a VBAC will just work under the assumption that is what is going to happen, we will do all we can to get you there. Of course a healthy baby is the focus, but doing all we can to end up with a VBAC is really important to me. My OB's negativity has been bringing me down and making me anxious since we found out I was PG, and I feel so much better after meeting with the midwife.
Thanks! Long story short, there is a bunch of us that wanted to do something right after and her family asked us not to. Now that a few months have passed, we may look at doing something and just not telling her family about it. I hate that since before this happened I thought we were close, but I and others need some sort of closure, chance to grieve with others. I grieve alone most of the time.
I think because they are close in age, they will be good friends. I have many brother/sister friends who are close in age that are almost the best of friends. My brother and I have taken the long road to get there, but we are also 7 years apart.
I am so sad for this whole situation. I honestly do not understand why her family wouldn't want to have a memorial or anything. But even if they don't, I really don't get why they don't want anyone else to. But I would still try to arrange something with the friends who want to do something, even if you can't tell her family.
::huge hugs:: I can't imagine what you're going through
BFP#1: 01/10, M/C 6w -- BFP#2: 06/10, M/C 5w -- BFP#3: 09/10, DS born June 1, 2011
BFP#4: 07/12, M/C 5w3d -- BFP#5: 12/12, EDD 08/18/13
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I'm really sorry for your loss. I think that's a good idea to do something privately on your own with her other friends. Maybe you could go to a place you used to go to and read letters or tell stories about her?
ETA: Maybe look into planting a tree or having a bench installed or something someplace that was special to her?
My vents: TN keeps kicking me off every time I try to post today!
Also I wish DH had more constructive hobbies and things that interested him. I feel like I have a zillion ways I like to spend my spare time and all he really has is working on the yard, watching sports on tv and drinking beer. He also takes work stress home with him and I think he would be a much happier person if he had something else to do that made him feel good about himself.
My AW: I joined Jazzercise last night and I feel great. I've been so bad in the exercise department since shortly after our wedding and I needed a kick to get healthy and back into shape. I'm really excited that it's so close and they have classes 7 days a week so I really have no excuse not to go.
I have cousins who are brother and sister, it's just the two of them, and they're a year or two apart in age. They're INCREDIBLY close. They spend time together often with their children and significant others and they're each other's best friend. It can happen!
I'm sad that M isn't getting a sister. Not that I'm sad to be having a little boy - I'm thrilled and can't wait to meet him - but I wanted her to have a sister. And she still might if we decide to have another, but gosh, the age difference by then? I guess more than anything I wish I could've had my two kids closer together in age. I feel like the 5 1/2 year age difference plus different sex is going to make it hard for them to be friends.
summer08 bride - This is such a sad situation. I agree that you and your mutual close friends should try to do something even if you can't tell her family.
Cooper - YAY! I hope the VBAC and midwives work out for you! I loved my midwives.
LLHR - My sister & I are 5.5 years apart and not terribly close. (She's actually my 1/2 sister, but always lived with us. ) We're really different and still have kind of a contentious relationship, but I think it's due to our personalities.
I always have a ton of things to complain about, but can never remember them.
My job is meh, but with DD at her current age, I can't see staying home FT with her, maybe pt and then send her to part-time daycare, but if I did that, then I'd have to work. Plus, we can't afford for me to stay home.
I have been toying with going back to school to finish up a certification that would qualify me for a job that is more flexible, but with a lot lower pay. I'm wondering what the point of putting in the time and effort, if I won't be able to afford to take the position anyway.
We have a friend who CONSTANTLY and bitterly complains about how he hates MD and the east coast and wants to move back to Texas. I really want to say, then f-ing move if you hate it here so much. Your options are 1) suck it up or 2) quit and move. He's tried to find a job there, but he can't find anything that will pay him a comparable salary. I'm sorry that it hates it here, but I'm tired of hearing him complain for the past 4 or 5 years...
AW: I've received a few awards at work recently and have been recogonized both within my organization and also at a national level, so I'm glad to see that most of my hard work and mental anguish has paid off in some way. I'm either doing something right or setting myself up for failure next year. :-)
Vent: I just received an e-mail from a family member stating how my continued friendship with a person that he is no longer friends with has pissed him off. -My loyalty is first and foremost with my family but I'll be dammed if someone tells me who I should and should not be friends with. The friend did nothing personal against me, and while I am aware of the situation that is going on and would never openly discuss anything regarding my family member to this friend, I'm not going to write someone off because you told me to! Why don't you try and let me get both sides of the story and so that I can form my own opinion, mmkay?
That must be an awesome feeling. Congratulations!!