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Remarried
Jesse is getting remarried on Saturday to the woman he divorced me for. I'm not upset about him remarrying but have been praying a lot time that he would marry someone a lot better than her. If he were marrying a different kind of woman... and I wont specifically put her down but just that I've been praying for someone different for him... if he had married someone who met my standards for him, I'd honestly be happy over the situation but because he is not, that is why I am sad about it. Apparently it's been kept a secret to the extended family. I dont know why but that part makes me sad that for some reason they have been hiding their relationship or something. He is not at all the man I once knew.... The news has made me sad for him. I wanted better and I'm praying she isn't pregnant... but it also made me really realize just how incredibly blessed I am by the man that Jacob is. He is so honorable, such a Godly man. You all know my faith and to have a man share that with me, to have a man that takes me aside and verbally prays for ME, a man who loves me as I've never, ever been loved. I'm just in awe and feeling so blessed. I'm so thankful that I did not stay married to Jesse for the rest of my life.
Still, I've been thinking about my ring especially for a while but out of respect for my marriage had made a conscious decision not to sell it until either he or I made a decision to remarry. So, I'm not positive how much it was but I think it was somewhere around 4k? I never did get a wedding band so I just have the e-ring. I doubt I will get much for my dress so not sure if I'll mess with that yet...
Thoughts?
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I think it says a lot about the man that he has become. Why hasn't he told anyone? Is he embarrassed or ashamed by the relationship. I hope this doesn't sound too harsh, but it wouldn't surprise me if that marriage doesn't last.
I would probably sell the ring and either sell the dress or donate it the Brides Against Breast Cancer organization.
I think being a bit sad about the situation is justifiable. From what you have said, it sounds like something shady is going on and he may not be making a good choice. That is definitely something to be bummed about.
I do have a suggestion for what to do with your dress... Just something to think about. There is a group I used to work with called Newborns in Need that uses donated wedding gowns to make burial clothes for premies who dont survive. They are donated to families who cannot afford burial services for their babies. This way the beauty of your dress could be used to help someone else going through a rough time in their family.
I am really happy to hear such good things happening for you in your current relationship. You sound so happy!
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Hugs! I'm glad you're in a good place, but I'd still like to drop kick him sometimes.
I'm all for selling the ring and donating the dress to a good cause.
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Hahaha awesome. I think we all would join in
I'm so glad you are in such a great spot. I think you can do what ever you would like with your ring and dress when you are ready. There is no specified timetable for that.
Bekkah - that organization is amazing. I had never heard of that.
This exactly. And it makes my heart happy to know that you have such a wonderful man to share a relationship with. It's really amazing to be able to share your faith with someone like that.
Thanks girls! I'm totally ready to sell the ring. I have no more attachment or anything so no desire to hang on to it. I thought about it a month or two ago but since I had made that conscious decision about a year ago to not sell it until one of us got remarried, I held off and figured I'd hold to my original decision and I felt that it was a way to honor marriage, even if he never did. Now that he is remarrying (I still shake my head over him marrying her), I feel released from honoring it.
I think I'll use whatever I get for the ring to save for my own wedding. I feel like my family completely wasted all that money on my wedding to Jesse (who never should have married me) and while I want a small wedding this time, it still will have some expenses so I think it's appropriate that something good come out of all the wreckage. I feel like I get a second chance at it all and that's so awesome.
Thanks girls and though I'm sad for Jesse, I'm not sad for me... not at all. If anything, this all makes me realize just how blessed everything turned out. It turned out way better than if I had originally gotten what I wanted. I never knew men like Jacob existed and while he isn't perfect and nobody is, he is simply amazing.
I had wanted that good, Godly person for my ex also... so just praying over them but how freeing to be completely in love and loved back with Jacob!
PS Wendy... if you read this, I just want you to know I have been thinking about you and want to encourage you that everything works out for the best in the end...
I totally agree with everything! That organization sounds so great, and would be a lovely option should you want to go that route and donate your dress. There's nothing wrong with having a little sadness over the situation. And whenever you are ready you can do what you want and what feels right with the ring and dress and put eveything behind you.
You are such a brave, strong woman. You should be really proud of where you are now. I'm sooo happy that you feel in a better place. Many hugs lady!
If I remember correctly, they didn't really start their relationship off on very high grounds. That's so great of you to have wanted someone better for Jesse. I know it probably makes you sad to see the person that he is, knowing that you once had a different view of him that isn't true anymore. I'm glad you're at a point where you're so thankful for how everything turned out. I'm always so happy to hear what a great, Godly man Jacob is and wonderful he is to you! I don't think I really and truly realized there were men out there like that when I was dating.
I did see your comment. Thanks for thinking of me and for trying to encourage me. 