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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
cheating wife?
My very best friend just cheated on her husband. She's been staying with me since he kicked her out but she's worried that he'll take legal action and she just wants to move past her mistake. I'm trying to help her but I'm a new Navy wife (they're Navy too) and I'm not sure how the system works. What are her repercussions for cheating? Is there anything she can do? Thanks!
Re: cheating wife?
Well that's not really her choice to make, and she probably should have thought about that when she decided to cheat on him.
So that is what I wanted to say but I guess I didn't want to hurt anyones feelings! I agree 100%. My "best friend" is now divorced from a soldier because of cheating (maybe on both sides, I never heard his side of the story). We were best friends since sixth grade and now we don't speak. Unfortunately these things happen a lot in the military community and it is just not OK. People have very negative views of military couples because of things like this. I understand sticking together but when someone is wrong they need to know they are wrong and not be supported in their poor decisions.
I changed my name
I changed my name
Okay, I'll be on the outside of this and say that I would take a very dim view of someone that completely dropped a very close friend just because the friend cheated on their spouse. My mom had an affair (15 years ago) and is now married to the man she had an affair with. Should neither she or her husband have any friends or support? Seriously. Yes, the affair led to the end of my parents' marriage, but it was the catalyst, not the cause. They were very unhappy together. I imagine that's what it takes, you don't leave something that's sunshine and roses on a whim, or most people don't. And if they would, then that's a maturity issue, and a totally different beast when it comes to maintaining a friendship. I love my parents both very much separately, but as a couple they were not happy and were not good for each other, no abuse or anything, just very different goals and needs. Now, should my mother perhaps have instigated a divorce instead of starting up with the other man, sure, in a perfect world that would have happened. However, I'm not willing to condemn her to the bowels of hell for a mistake. Neither, in fact, is my dad.
I'm happy that she had friends she could talk to about what was going on and how to handle the situation. She even had friends that were *gasp/shock* couples. And they gave her a place to stay while she recovered from ACL surgery during the summer my parents were divorcing. And I thank them for that.
I'm not pro-cheating, I don't think it's a good thing to do, but I also know that my FI is smart enough to know that even if I had a friend who cheated on her SO, that doesn't mean I would. "Birds of a feather," that is so ridiculous and I hope not indicative of the trust level in anyone's relationship.