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High School Sweethearts ** Dream or Reality?
I hear all the time nowadays that high school is too young to meet the love of your life, yet there are couples all around me that met in High School and are still happily married to this day. I would just love to hear your thoughts on this 
Re: High School Sweethearts ** Dream or Reality?
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My in-laws were high school sweethearts and they just celebrated their 30th wedding anniversary and act like it is their 3rd wedding anniversary- very loving and obviously need one another.
I think it takes a special kind of couple to meet in high school and mature together and in the same direction to maintain their relationship into adulthood. I can definitely say I do not have faith in the marriages of the majority of kids that get married right after high school; however, i definitely hope they prove me wrong!
Sure, it can happen. But it's not the 'norm' and I agree- I htink it takes a special kind of person to really be able to make it work. I actually know of 2 couples I went to highschool with who are still together (over 20 years) and have kids.
But it's not something I'd hang my hat on - "Oh, THEY are HS sweethearts so therefore it means it's right for ME too!".
~Benjamin Franklin
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My grandparents on my dad's side were HS sweethearts. Married for 52 years before they died.
My parents are HS sweethearts. They've been married 41 years now and still act like newlyweds.
My twin sister and BIL are HS sweethearts. Dated 9.5 years and been married for 1 year.
Two good friends from HS are high school sweethearts. They dated for 5 years and have been married almost 4 years. Their first baby is due in August.
It can happen. I wanted it to happen to me growing up because I wanted to be as happy as my parents. As it happens my H is very similar to my dad in mannerisms and the way he treats our marriage/me so I got my wish. I met my H in college though, not HS.
Sure it can happen, but I don't think people should force it, I also don't think it makes a relationship any better just because they met in highschool and wen't to prom together.
I'm so glad I did NOT marry my high school boyfriend lol.
Sure it happens. In fact I am all for it. If my kids find the love of their life when they are that young then awesome. I find it very real and sweet. But this is going by if they understand what love really is.
Growing up I understand why people say high school is too young to meet the love of your life. And they are talking about the majority of teenagers. The majority of teens don't understand what it takes to be committed in a real relationship. Majority of teens will bail once the butterflies are all gone and even before that.
I think it's possible but not likely.
The only people I know who were HS sweethearts and are still together are married and have two kids. They also argue constantly and the husband is a drunk. But they claim to be very happy.
DH is my college sweetheart I guess. We've been together 11 years, since I was 19 and so far so good.
It's not common, especially in today's society, but it certainly is possible. I married my high school sweetheart, and we have an amazing marriage. We've been together since I was 16. We've never broken up, never spent time apart. We moved in together when I was 18 and got married when I was 20. Now at 32, we just decided to start trying for a baby. We built our marriage on a very strong foundation, and it's taken work, but having such history together has made it even more special to me. I love that we've become who we are, together.
My parents are also hs sweethearts, and my SIL married her boyfriend from 8th grade. Several of our cousins are hs sweethearts married for 20+ years. However, we are the only couple out of our group of long term old friends who have stayed together.
My husband and I met when we were in 7th grade, but didn't start "dating" until 8th grade. We have been married for less than 2 months, but had been dating for over 8 years before we got married.
I personally think meeting the love of your life at a young age has it's benefits and downfalls. It was harder for us to fully mature while in a relationship that started so young. We were stuck in "teenage mode". However, after a few breaks, we matured separately which helped our relationship mature.
On the other hand, because we started "dating" when we did, we were able to build a friendship and foundation before our romantic relationship. We were able to become best friends and then fall in love. From the dating experience I received when we had broken up, I felt pressured to start a romantic relationship first, with someone I barely knew, and then try to work on the friendship (if it lasted). Being able to become best friends first, at a time when a romantic relationship wasn't pressured (or really necessary), helps us make it through those moments when the romance fizzles.
Also, dating each other before having to take on any real responsibilities, like a job and bills, helps us remember how to be carefree and have fun together. We can tap back into "teenage mode" for a night and be able to just enjoy being with each other. We can forget about the bills due and where money is coming from, for just a couple of hours, and live like we did in High School.
Even though we started off immature, which led to many stupid break ups, I wouldn't change a thing about when my hubby and I met. I love him more now than I ever have. Meeting in Jr. High worked for us and he loves telling people we are "middle school sweethearts"
My Husband and I met when I was in 9th grade, he in 10th. We dated all through high school, then split when I went off to college. It was a pretty bad breakup, so we literally didn't speak for 5 years. After I graduated college and moved back to my hometown (literally, the week after) he randomly called me and we decided to meet up. We've been inseparable ever since, and got married 3 months ago...so we dated for 4 years, were apart for 5, dated again for 3, and now we're married! High school sweethearts are rare, but can happen!
(BUT...I would encourage any and every high school girl to devote more time and effort towards FRIENDS in high school, and not put all their energy into a single relationship. It can/will alienate them, and unfortunately, most of the time, they're not "the one".)
I met my hubby in Junior High and we started dating at the end of high school, dated for 8 years and now are married (newlyweds though, not long time married). We were each others first loves. It doesn't work for everyone, but when you find the right one it doesn't really matter when you started dating.
It can happen. What about middle school sweethearts?
My Husband and I met in the 7th grade at 12 years old (22 now). We dated on and off (always remained friends) until the beginning of 10th grade when we broke up for around 6 months and did not speak each other. During that time we dated other people, but have been each other's only sexual relationship. We officially got back together the summer after our 10th grade year and have been inseparable ever since. I graduated from my University this past May & two weeks later we got married. My life could not have been planned out any better.
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I am 22 and my Fiance is 21 we first started dating when I was 16 he 15. Well obviously we broke up after a year or so and we dated others. I got into a relationship and was cheated on twice with two different girls. Yeah pathetic. Well my now Fiance was one who talked to me when that went down. For being 17 he was so smart and caring for me and me alone. He talked to me on the phone until I would fall asleep, keeping my mind off my recent relationship problem. Eventually the whole question of "can it work again?" came up. So we went for it. We dated and went away to college where we became closer than ever. We fought and we still do. After a break for a month sometime in 2011, I realized my heart had one missing element. I called him abruptly at about 1 am. I said I wanted to see him. By the time I got there I was in tears and couldn't breathe. He just knew and felt the same way obviously cause he grabbed me and hugged me for what seemed about 10 mins. Long story we got back together again. His parents recently divorced and sometimes this makes things difficult. At one point I got super selfish and asked why he would rather spend time with everyone else but me. Coming to the conclusion that literally its because we met so young, we both realize that we didn't really date many other people. He said that sometimes he worries that because we are a high school relationship we won't work out...which is why he had not proposed to me. I broke down and told him I wanted only him because no one out there respects me and loves me the way he does and I assured him that I would love him more than anyone else. He knows that of course he said. It was the sweetest talk and most sentimental moment ever....then he proposed! Just like that....after fighting. lol. We realized life is rocky but its worth it. Now we are planning our wedding in 2014 and couldn't be more excited. Our families and the best part our friends seem to be almost more excited than us! It can work but I believe it takes more work to make it strong. Don't be discouraged because what society believes.