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How long to date?
I am married, but asking what other people think after talking with a friend.
My best friend has been dating a really great guy for 8 months. They are both professionals, each own a home, and overall life is great for them. They have very similar backgrounds, beliefs, morals etc..... They are in their 30's and 40's respectively, and neither has been married before. Also, there are no kids in the picture. Everything you need to make a relationship work.
Here is my question. They have been dating 8 months. She is ready for a ring, but she doesn't know when/if he will propose. I advised her to bring it up, and have an open discussion. She said she has, and has told him she won't date him forever. Bascially, "sh*t or get off the pot" attitude.
What would you advise her to do from here? She is very happy, and I have never seen her like someone as much as this before. And, the I love you's have been said along with him telling her she is his best friend. Thoughts and advice? TIA
Re: How long to date?
When my H and I'd be dating for 6 months we had the "where do you see this relationship going" conversation. We both stated we didn't want to date forever and marriage was in our future. However, we didn't get engaged for another 6.5 months after that initial conversation. We gave our relationship time to develop and grow without the pressure of planning a wedding.
My point is your friend should know if he's going to propose. Maybe not when, but if definitely. What did he say to her when she told him sh*t or get off the pot?
"Don't marry a man unless you would be PROUD to have a son exactly like him." ~ Unknown
I think this isn't really any of your business - she should be discussing this with him. Not everyone has an exact timeline on when things should happen in a relationship. I know for me I knew that I had to have been through enough situations with SO to see how he reacted and dealt with them and me to know if this was a relationship I wanted to continue.
Eight months isn't really a long time in the grand scheme of things. I'm not even sure how you can even really "know" someone completely in eight months.