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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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not in the same place in life
i have been married for almost two years now i am the only one out of my friends that are married... which was never a problem we still hung out and were very close hubby would hang out with us and my friend love him... well now that i am seven months pregnant things started to really change.. i barely hear from them and when i try to talk to them are conversation are very short... my one friend that i was the closest to me and my husband had decided to ask to be the godmother while just resiliently she tells me i don't entertain her anymore that was very hurtful... i have been very depressed about losing my friends... i know where all in different places in our lives i feel like I am being push away...
Re: not in the same place in life
Why not sign up for some baby classes through your OBGYN's office, local community center or park district? That will give you an opportunity to meet some other moms-to-be in your area. Then after baby comes, there's Gymboree and other mom and baby activities that will give you a chance to meet more moms and their kids for play date opportunites and friendship.
This is good advice. Friendships shift when marriage and babies enters the picture. And pregnant women tend to be unable to talk about anything but being pregnant, which can get old really fast for people who aren't and aren't interested in becoming pregnant any time soon. (I'm not saying this to be snarky, I totally get it. I swore I wouldn't be one of those women and then I got pregnant and my brain was entirely unable to focus on anything else.)
This happened to me - not pregnant, but as my friends started pairing off, those that were not paired became very very jealous and angry. I can no longer remember why I considered them friends. I reached out to a couple of people and started a book club. and through talking about the club and just getting out and meeting new people, I've been able to re-form my urban family. It's no longer a core group of friends who do everything together, instead it's become a handful of people that I mix with in various combinations. I've accepted that they're not a big part of my life anymore, and have learned to look for certain qualities in people - mainly that they are non-judgemental and good listeners.
For you, though, you're going to need a "safety net" to help you through the changes in your life with the baby. I recommend asking around for support groups for new mothers.
I can totally relate. Although I am not or have been pregnant this started happening with some of my friends after I got married, even my best friend and I don't seem to connect on a deeper level as much anymore.
I agree with everyone else's advice, find some community groups or local groups with meetup.com that will help you make some new connections. I met some new friends through a meetup.com group and although they are single its been nice to have friends that have always known me as married and didn't pull away because I moved on to a different stage in life. I'm sorry that you are going through this and know that you are not alone!