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So Sore... girls with tears come in
I have to rant and get this off my chest. I'm sure I've bitched about it before...
The past 3 days my tear has been hurting way more than usual, it's been so bad that I can barely stand without discomfort. I started walking about a mile each day at the beginning of the week, so I'm not sure if it's just because I've been more active or if it is pregnancy related. Either way it hurts, and I'm starting to get discouraged.
I've been doing a lot of research trying to find any information about why I'm still in pain and I can't find anything. Everywhere I look says something along the lines of 'severe tears can cause pain up to 6 months and sometimes mild discomfort up to a year'... well we're 6 months past that now and I'm still in pain, and the thought of having to push another baby out in 3 months is starting to make me anxious.
I'm planning for a natural birth (hopefully induction free) this time. With Wyatt getting stuck and my risk of shoulder dystocia higher as a result, the risk of getting an epidural isn't worth it to me (being stuck on your back increases the risk). So I've been trying to move forward without even considering getting the epi. I know I can do it without one, but being in pain like this is making me doubt how much I will really be able to handle. I'm frustrated, and I really need someone to talk it out with, or at least get some kind of reassurance that I can do this.
My doula was supposed to be coming over for dinner tonight, but now she's tied up. We rescheduled for Monday, so I'm hoping to talk to her about it then (She has had a baby with SD as well).
Sorry that got so long. I'm just wondering for anyone else who has tore badly (Maria, and Lindsay I think... not sure about everyone else) do you still have pain where you tore, and have you gotten any advice on how to help it?
Re: So Sore... girls with tears come in
I'm sorry you are in pain.
I really don't have any pain anymore. Sometimes I feel a little tinge in the scar area, but that is very rare.
It doesn't seem right that you are having pain like this. I'm pretty much "like new." I'd talk to your doctor. I wonder if there's a numbing cream or something?
That said, I would never consider giving birth without an epi -- especially because I tore, so I'm no help there. My mom was wondering if they'd automatically do an episiotomy next time. Ella did break her collarbone, so if we could avoid that next time I would hope to.
Jenny McCarthy = Former Playmate and MTV host
Pediatrician = Doctor with extensive experience and education on children.
Bumpies = Don't get me started!
I know who I get my health advice from!
What are you looking at?
I'm sorry, I'm not much help. I did have a third degree tear but I haven't had any issues at all with it in a really long time. They did call in a specialist though for my "repair job" so that may have something to do with it.
I know a friend of mine tore really badly with her second child. Her third is now 18 months old and she has lots of issues. When she has her next baby she was going to ask for the obstetrician to come in to "fix her up". Do you have the option of an OB where you are giving birth? I know that doesn't help you right now.
I didn't have any drugs when I had Mackenzie, mostly because my labor was so fast. The thought of that repair job without drugs again makes me cringe. You're a brave woman!
Jenny McCarthy = Former Playmate and MTV host
Pediatrician = Doctor with extensive experience and education on children.
Bumpies = Don't get me started!
I know who I get my health advice from!
What are you looking at?
I talked to my doctor about what they would do if I were to tear again, and he said that in most instances where the tear healed correctly they would do an episiotomy towards the opposite side so that you don't reopen the same tear. He said that in my case they would probably just let me tear again because if it didn't heal properly, it would give my body a second chance to heal.
Did Ella get stuck as well? I didn't know that her collarbone was broken.
We only have GDs at our hospital. I've considered going into the city to get better care but you need a referral from your family doctor which they refuse to give me because I'm not considered high risk.
I'm pretty sure that the problems I'm having are because my doctor let her student 'finish' stitching me up. I knew that he was there watching, and by the time they were finally done I couldn't have cared less who stuck what back together. The only places that I have pain are the places where he 'helped'.
Also, before getting pregnant I talked to my doctor about whether or not what I was going through was normal and if something should be done to fix it before getting pregnant again. He said no, but I can't help but wonder if there is something that could have been done. If I still have problems after this baby is born I'm definitely going to be looking into it.
I'll definitely have to look into this. Do you know if she would just call herself a physical therapist or something different?
Jenny McCarthy = Former Playmate and MTV host
Pediatrician = Doctor with extensive experience and education on children.
Bumpies = Don't get me started!
I know who I get my health advice from!
What are you looking at?
That's awesome that she healed so fast! I guess I always assumed that a break like that would take a long time.
I didn't realize this happened! Poor girl! You said she was healed pretty well after 3 days, but did she have much pain before that? Do they do anything to help them heal or does it just heal on its own? Will she have any problem with her collarbone as she gets older?
She wasn't acting in pain after 3 days, it takes about a year for it to totally heal, but she hasn't had any affects from it. I actually think that side might be her dominant side (left).
They suspected she had a break in the hospital and she was super fussy, but they couldn't find the location by touch and they don't xray babies unless they feel the break. They were really concerned that she cried constantly, but said pedi would reevaluate. She screamed bloody murder having her clothes changed -- now we know why. If they had diagnosed it immediately, we would have had to keep her arm out of her onesies to eliminate that pain.
She stopped being fussy around day 3. She didn't get grouchy again until she became a toddler
At her two week appointment the doctor finally diagnosed it. What happens is bone forms around the break to make a natural splint. So by two weeks he could feel this big bump of bone. He said it would dissolve by 1 yr, but I couldn't feel it after 9 months or so. He said 'it was okay they didn't diagnose it because it saved her an xray which I'm sure would of been horrendous and it set itself properly.
Jenny McCarthy = Former Playmate and MTV host
Pediatrician = Doctor with extensive experience and education on children.
Bumpies = Don't get me started!
I know who I get my health advice from!
What are you looking at?