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He needs to get involved
Anyone else having an issue with your other half not really getting into the whole pregnancy thing? Mine knows I'm pregnant but doesn't seem to really care. For him, my exhaustion is ridiculous because "there are plenty of women who work their butts of until their due date". I'm sorry I don't measure up! But learn a bit more about what it is to be pregnant and then we'll chat.
How can I open his eyes before he drives me insane!!
Re: He needs to get involved
I cringe when people try to tell me just because many people have lived life a certain way, that it can be done. Of course many things can be done, but people can spread themselves too thin and not give enough focus where things are needed most, like taking care of ourselves to ensure we are happy and healthy. I have seen many people have a life not in balance, and trying to do it all, and for what? If we are not making an effort to enjoy what we have, and enjoy each day, which takes much thought and preparation, then we are doing something wrong.
Was your husband a little insensitive before you got pregnant?
What exactly isn't he into? is he thinkig you're still up to speed and therefore can do all the housework, etc by yourself? a little more backstory will help.
I think it depends on the situation. Are you having a difficult pregnancy? Are you very far into your pregnancy? Are you milking pregnancy for all it is worth and laying dramatically on the sofa while he cooks, cleans and is sent out to the shop for random ice cream flavours and cocktail shrimp? Or are you just a bit more tired and not wanting to do as much and he's getting frustrated that things have changed so suddenly?
I had a Linda Blair pregnancy so my husband was well aware of how rough it was without us needing to talk about it. However, him reading a bit about pregnancy and what your body is doing may help him to understand better.
Also yes, there are women who work their butts off up until their due date. There are also women that give birth in rice fields and are back picking rice that same day. There was also a woman that ran a marathon and then gave birth. But why do that if you don't have to?
Chronically hilarious - you'll split your stitches!
I wrote a book! Bucket list CHECK!
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How pregnant are you?
For my DH, he was really "meh" about the whole pregnancy thing until we got to about 20 weeks and he found out what we were having, the baby looked like a real person on the ultrasound, he could feel the baby kick etc. At that point it was like a switch flipped and it became real to him and he became obsessed. Reading about proper nutrition, researching baby products, making sure I got enough sleep, drank enough water, etc.
You DH's comment seems rather insensitive. But unless he talks like that all the time, it could have just been said offhand or in reaction to how you're acting. If you're laying on the couch 24/7 and expecting him to bring you drinks and fluff your pillows, I can see his getting an attitude about it. I'd talk to him and tell him how you're feeling. Ask him to respect that fact that you're very invested in this pregnancy, even if he isn't yet. Good luck!