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Clicky: Friends & Income
After we built our house, one of my good friends who lives in another city came over to check it out. After walking around for a while she said, "Wow! How much did you pay for your house?" I was kind of caught off guard so I just told her. Later H said, "why did you tell her? It's none of her business!" Which I guess is true, I just didn't think it was a big deal. Anyway, that made me think of this question...
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Re: Clicky: Friends & Income
Well, my friends and I all work together and have similar incomes...so, why not?
As for H's income, I don't think he's shy about it. I've never understood much the big secret about it all.
Exactly. I am nosy too.
I have no qualms about discussing financial info with close friends. It's probably not something I'd volunteer to tell a person who's just an acquaintance, though.
I am surprised by this. I would not tell someone, even a very good friend, how much money I make.
I will make comments to Snowful like "My VISA card is screeching, I have to stop shopping." But that could mean I owe $500, $5,000 or $20,000 - who knows?
I'm pretty surprised too!
I've discussed it with a couple of my very close friends, but mainly because they're curious as to how the whole military pay system works. I definitely wouldn't volunteer that information to any random person.
Although, I think my salary is public information since I work for a state institution...and if people really wanted to, they could figure out H's salary based on his pay grade, plus BAH, and get pretty close to how much he brings home a month...
I have no problem telling people how much we paid for a house, car, etc (especially if it was a bargain!). It doesn't bother me if a friend asked me how much money my or H's job makes...like PP, teacher's base pay is public knowledge (as is the knowledge that we're not highly paid :0). Also, if someone who was interested in the career field or moving to my district, and asked how much we start out, I have no problem telling. You can generally tell if someone is asking for general knowledge or trying to be judge-y.
The only "woah, kinda rude" moment I had was when a young couple moved in next door to us in OK, they were like "yeah, few pleasantries, oh BTW, what did you pay for your house?" This was the first time I meet them.
Yeah, both mine and Kevin's pay tables are public information, so I have no qualms about answering that question. I know what all of my coworkers make, my boss, etc, so it doesn't seem all that weird.
Also, I think salary is no real indicator of financial situation honestly. it's all relative to your spending habits and debt.
People always ask me how come I work since DH is an attorney.
After I stop p!ssing my pants from laughing so hard I explain that no law school I know of gives a kid a $1mm check as soon as they pass the bar. I mean, seriously, people. Rude.
lol People really are deluded about how much attorneys make, especially the first few years out of law school! My students are convinced that H must bring home tons of money, until they ask me where I got that cute sweater or flats, and I tell them Ross or Payless :P
Lol. This assumption always cracks me up. People forget that most people with advanced degrees had to spend a lot of money and years of lost income to get those degrees.
Not to mention, I had been in the workforce for about 8 years when he graduated. Lord.
I don't think I've ever told my friends exactly what I make, but I'm willing to discuss at least generalities with a few close friends if they ask. I've compared specific starting salaries and yearly bonus with one good friend, but we work in the same industry.
When caught off guard, a good response I've heard before is, "Oh, I make somewhere between plenty and never enough."
Confession: I've looked up coworkers houses on the county assessor's site. I was surprised to learn that my boss' house is worth a lot more than his boss' house.