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Maid of honor screwed my on my wedding day showing up late when I asked her to be there for me on my
She hasnt been that supportive and helpful with the wedding planning to begin with. Its not like I cared because I didnt ask her for much up until the wedding. She is so self centered at times and I am just plain old sick of her. Well first I must say that my wedding turned out to be a great event, but I feel like I was let down by her. I asked her to be at my house by a certain time because I wanted all the bridesmaids there. There was alot going on and I was getting totally nervous and needed all the help and support I could get. So she shows up 3 hours late with the other girls, which happened to be the exact time of the wedding, and not even prepared. I was totally livid. I mean how can you do this to me. I have been number one supportive friend to the girls. It was my wedding day for christ sake, not some typical party. I was totally upset but I didnt let me affect me that day. I brought it up recently and she came up with some bs excuses on how she had to get shoes and nails n blah blah blah. It was a load of crap and nether the less my closest friend should have been there for me and I was highly offended. How should I deal with her. I know its not a big deal anymore but it really affected me bigtime and it changes the dynamic of our friendship. If she cant be there for me on my wedding day, what other important event is there??
Not only was it her but also was 2 of my bridesmaids showing up late, but I didnt expect much from them because they are kind of selfish in the first place based on things that have happened but still
I told her how I felt and she apologized, so its over but how can she be so selfish on my wedding day. Is one freaking day.... maybe I should recoonsider my friends
Sorry just needed to vent
Re: Maid of honor screwed my on my wedding day showing up late when I asked her to be there for me on my
Yeah it was pretty rude behaviour, but it sounds like she's selfish and maybe not that great a friend. Why do you want to be friends with her?
Some people drift apart, some people aren't great at being friends. If you want to spend time with her then do. If you don't, then don't. I don't think you need to "do" anything dramatic over it.
As an aside, did you get to your wedding on time? Did she arrive later than you had hoped? Or so late that you were late for your wedding?
Either way it's rude, but if you made it to your wedding on time and so did she, then really that's all a BM HAS to do. I know you say that you NEEDED her, but really that sounds kinda dramatic, and clearly you didn't need her because your wedding day went ahead and you got married.
My maid of honor showed up late on my wedding day. It was stressful and I was hurt that she didn't prioritize getting there on time.
However, it was one day and I know that she cares about me. I let it go. It wasn't worth ruining a friendship over.
Ok. I'm assuming your wedding just happened so I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt that you don't have much perspective right now.
(1) If you invite unreliable people to be in your wedding party, you are not allowed to be disappointed when they act they way you KNOW they are. That was your fault for having those people.
(2) It always annoys me when brides think that their wedding party are their indentured servants and are obligated to help in every way the bride deems proper. Not true. All they are required to do is to stand up with you at your wedding. Did they do that? If so, they met their requirements. They are not required to spend the entire morning pre-wedding with you, they're just not. Would it be nice? Sure. Should they have said "hey, that doesn't work for me, we'll be there at 'x' time" Certainly. But there was one person in my wedding party who didn't want to do the pre-wedding get ready stuff with me, so, ok. Just show up on time. And still, you're the person who invited "unreliable, self centered people" to be in your wedding party---so, for you to expect more from them was just wrong.
(3) Sweetie, have a bit of perspective. You just got married--presumably to the love of your life. Is there a reason you can't focus on the positive? I understand that you were disappointed that your wedding party but this line "I mean how can you do this to me. I have been number one supportive friend to the girls. It was my wedding day for christ sake, not some typical party." is kinda dramatic.
You need to think about this differently. I MARRIED THE LOVE OF MY LIFE AND HAD A GREAT HONEYMOON, LIFE IS AWESOME.
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Because I can promise you in a year or 2, you'll look back on this post and laugh at yourself. It just doesn't matter.
(And it's fine if you decide you don't want unreliable people in your life. They're pretty annoying. But I also wouldn't have them in a wedding.)
It's clearly not over and it seems you didn't accept her apology and is still a big deal. If you did you wouldn't have so many negative things to say. Not that I blame you..I would be mad too.
One thing I cannot grasp why you involved all these people in your wedding party if they are all such selfish people. They won't change themselves just for one day. Yea they sound rude but this should be a learning experience. Next time don't involve them in something so important. That is if you remain friends. I have put certain people out of my life and trust me it's hard but it's like a huge weight was lifted off.
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As they are your friends, to a degree, yes - you can 'pick and choose', and you picked notoriously selfish people to be in your wedding.
BUT. I feel you - a LOT. My IL's were 1 1/2 hours late to our wedding! Yes, they technically showed up just in time for the ceremony, but as the parents of the groom - we wanted them there for some pictures w/ their son, and to just in general be there, relax, perhaps greet the guests (MANY of which where their family), etc.
Yes, we know that this is what they are like (being late). But really? On their son's WEDDING DAY!?!?!?!?
It's angering, it's hurtful, etc. My BIL had to actually hold DH back when he heard they had finally arrived. Yes, we went on to have a wonderful wedding - DH and I had an absolute blast, etc.
But to this day, almost 10 years later, it's still very much in our memories and it's very much a part of the reason why we've greatly altered how we make plans with them. As they are my IL's, I don't have the luxury of "picking" them! They are in my life no matter what.
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Find less selfish friends, though, that might be hard because you kind of sound like them.
You might want to take up the spammer on "her" offer of wealthy men. It'll allow selfishness all around!
You and your friends all sound alike, to be honest.
"It's my wedding day, what other important event could there be?"
I'll let you in on a little secret: your wedding day is the most important day to you and to you only. No one else cares as much except for maybe your mom. Your BMs have lives and a lot of other things going on.
I get it was rude that they showed up 3 hours late, I get that. But really, you state you didnt expect much from your wedding party because they were selfish anyway? Who says that?