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My cousin has crossed the line!
Ok so let me start with saying me and my cousin have been very very close pretty much since birth... She introduced me to my husband and was there when he proposed. Any thing important in my life i would tell her. So about a month ago i checked my voicemail and had a message. It was from a women claiming to have been sleeping with my husband. She stated that my husband was having oral sex and intercoursewith her and that now he wasnt answering her calls. She called me a B**ch and told me to have him call her or she would come up to our job and go off. She ends the message saying and HE KNOWS WHO THIS IS. Before the caller hung up i could hear someone laughing in the background. After listening to the message again i recognized the voice as being my cousins friend. I sent my cousin a message saying i got your message you and your friend left on my voicemail. She denied and i said ok,but later that evening she told me they had done it and it was a joke. I AM LIVID!!!! I deleted her from all my social media pages and wrote her a letter explaining why it was not acceptable and why i was upset. MY QUESTION IS? AM I WRONG? She did appologize and i forgave her but i havent spoken to her since. SHOULD I JUST ACT AS IF NOTHING HAPPENED? OR WAS IT NOT THAT SERIOUS, WOULD SOMEONE ACTUALLY THINK SOMETHING LIKE THAT COULD BE A JOKE? HOW LONG SHOULD I NOT SPEAK TO HER
Re: My cousin has crossed the line!
Does "for good" cover "the warranty" on this one?
I would never speak to her again. She's evidently got a screw loose. Your "friendship loss" is no loss at all.
Some jokes are just NOT funny and I would be done with her, too.
What did your DH say about this?
Your cousin is twisted. Please don't try to make sense out of why she tried to hurt you. You will never get an answer that makes sense. You can allow yourself to grieve on the sudden loss of your friendship with your cousin, to move forward and not dwell about it, but don't feel guilty about cutting out toxic things from your life. Since she is related and might show up at the same family gatherings, to keep things as neutral as possible you can still be civil around her and not be good friends anymore (like occasional "hi" in passing). If you don't look or speak to her again when she's in the same room, since she is unstable this could make her vindictive toward you. Keep her at arm's length.
lol no actually it is her sister!