May 2012 Weddings
Melissa51212
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Chef widow
So me and my H...have been together for five years so I'm no stranger to the rough hours the chef life has but I'm really hating it lately...on the weekends I see all my friends posting All the fun things they doing with their spouses and I'm home alone wi no spouse...thankfully I have a large group of friends and family that keep me pretty occupied but being a newly wed I just want to be with him. I try to stop me from sulking thinking of all the military spouses that go so much longer without them but in my own world everyone else has a. 9-5 job and we miss out on so much. Days off are rare he works 60 hr weeks one day off. Anyone else have a spouse with a crazy job? Looking for some support?!
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Re: Chef widow
YUP! My husband currently works retail, therefore he has the crazy retail hours. To make matters worse, he has to commute an hour each way. He got offered a new job yesterday, and he's very excited about it. I think it will be a good fit for him. He'll now be an industrial machine mechanic... much more his thing! The retail job was temporary until he found something better. I'm very excited for him BUT his hours will now be 3p-11p. His commute will only be about 20-25 minutes, so I won't get to see him until late night (I work the normal 8-5). He keeps telling me that we'll get to spend alllll weekend together to make up for it, but I'm dreading not having him around on weekdays. I'm going to have to find a hobby to keep me busy
My husband works construction for his own company. So there's a lot of days he's out of the house by 7 and not home till 7 or 8.. and becuase of the wedding and some badly timed vacations for us and his business partner, they've been working weekends to make up for it. If he doens't work.... or doesn't find work we're up the creek.
They do mainly concrete work... so when they have to pour a big floor, there's lots of times he goes to work.. like i said at 7, then isn't home until 2 or 3 am.
I went from living with my parents, to living with him, so I've never lived by myself. When I first moved in I found it really lonely when he was gone, but now I love the time to myself haha. I have found some hobbies and stuff thta keep me occupied, and like you said, there's always friends and family to help you out!
There's always us too! haha
i hit reply to OP, not sure if that's correct or not..... anyway...
i'm sorry about all the alone time away from your new hubby
i'm in training for my new job so DH and i currently live about 3 hours apart. We only get to see each other on the weekends, so i completely understand you feeling lonely. it's good that you have friends and family to hang out with. i'm not sure what to say to make you feel better though :-/ just that: this, too shall pass
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I can relate, except I'm the spouse with the crazy hours. I'm a nurse and H is an accountant. It stinks having to work weekends sometimes, but my schedule is pretty flexible.
I'm currently on a stretch of night shifts, that really blows.
T works crazy hours too. He works 12- 16 hours everyday rotating from night shift to day shifts. But he does get time off almost whenever he needs it. (A few days a month) So I can't complain as much but it definately sucked having him have to go back to work the day after the wedding.
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I had a similar situation... when I was in grad school I had class every weekend while DH worked all week for two years. We never had weekends together. Then when I was finished I was so excited to have weekends with him and the his dad needed his help with their new business so he spent every weekend at his parents 3 hours away while I stayed at our apt alone. For 2 1/2 years I loathed FB on fridays when all I saw was TGIF and I could not wait until Sunday when DH was home.
Right now we FINALLY have the same ish schedule he works 8:30-4:30 and I work 9-5 and then we have the weekends free.
I would say make the best of the time you spend together