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It's bound to come up soon....
So who is planning on adding to their family soon (and not with furbabies)? A few people at the wedding asked me this and while slightly annoying, I didn't let it bother me too much. I'm still on the fence about the whole having kids thing... some days I want babies and other day it's the worst idea in the whole world. Anyone here trying to conceive already and if not, what is your time frame if you want kids?
Kind of a personal question but we've talked about much worse things and I figure if we get it out of the way now we won't have to talk about it again for awhile 
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Re: It's bound to come up soon....
I am totally with you on the whole on the fence thing. I guess I've never had that drive or instinct that's like "OMG MUST HAVE BABIES NOW OR MY LIFE IS MEANINGLESS!" Not to sound heartless, but I was lurking over on the Childless Not by Choice board....and it is just so foreign to me that these women talk about not being able to have children in the same way my SIL talks about her husband being killed...like their life is over, like the loss is as bad. And then reading about all the crazy treatment and amounts of money women spend trying to have a baby when they are having trouble. I guess I feel like if it's meant to be it'll happen, and that it just seems unnatural to have all those treatments and embryos injected into you. If you are having that much trouble, maybe it's just not meant to be.
I understand that will probably be an unpopular opinion, but just the way I feel I guess. So maybe someday we'll decide to try, but it wouldn't be until after May 2013 at the EARLIEST. We are going to a DW in Hawaii then =] And if we weren't able to have kids, it wouldn't be the end of the world to me.
This post made me. LOL
Our method/ plan is whatever will be will be. I can't take BC from a high stoke risk. So we use natural planning, plus I'm not even suppose to be able to have kids. We were blessed by DD two years ago which was awesome.
Since the wedding we have been doing nothing to prevent. However we are not trying. I think it adds way too much pressure. So we may be adding sooner than later or starting the adoption process in a couple of years if nothing happens.
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We're at the point where we're using BC but if a swimmer happens to make it past the goalie it wouldn't ruin our lives. At that point it would be what was supposed to happen. But I also wouldn't be devastated if we couldn't have kids for some reason.
We're trying now. I'll be 34 in September, so we figured we'd better at least start trying. If it doesn't work out, we haven't decided the means we'll take. We're also not totally baby-crazy and before I met Greg I was totally okay if I never got married or had kids. But, now that I've met him, I really, really want to have a family with him. Right now, I'd say we wouldn't go through IVF, but instead adopt. But, I think things change once you're invested, so I don't know! Hopefully, it won't come to that. We're also undecided if we want one or two kids. Definitely not more than two!
We want kids, but we want to enjoy our marriage first. We're both 23 and I am fresh out of graduate school and he is currently finishing his Masters degree. I have some student loans to pay off and we're currently stationed in a county where I would not want my kids to go to school (I'm a teacher if you can't tell). We are using BC, but if something happened...it would not be the end of the world, but at the same time we have some bigger fish to fry! I need to get a job, move and settle before I really want a family.
I love babies and my family has hinted at it before. My family prior generations have all gotten married early and had babies early. Like I am talking 19, babies by 21. My Mom already had me at 23...So I am the old maid of the group, but I was also the first to get a degree, let alone two, so I guess it evened out. They're just going to have to be patient though and enjoy the furbaby we have and the furbaby we are thinking about adding before any real babies (hopefully! *knocks on wood*)
We're also waiting. I'm get more excited about the idea of a puppy right now! I've never been baby crazy, I know I want kids, but I'm not the type to "ooooh and ahhhh" over a new baby.
I'm 28, H is 34, so I know he won't want to wait too much longer. I'm hoping to spend the next 2 years with just the two of us, and then consider kids once I'm 30ish.
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This has definitely become the big question since we've gotten married! DH & I are both 27 so we feel like we have some time. I'd like us to enjoy married life, pay down some debt and buy a house before we start TTC. I'm hoping we can buy a house in 2 years and then start trying for a family a year after that, so when we're 30-ish. We'd like to have two, so we're not rushing to have a big family or anything.
As much as DH & I want a family, I'm not sure what we'd do if we couldn't have our own kids. Probably adopt a ton of dogs!
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DH and I are going to be waiting for sure a year. We do want kids, but we are young, and want to enjoy each others company for awhile
Plus, our hands are full with our new kitten right now, and DH wants to get a hunting dog in the Fall.
So we won't be trying until May 2013 or after.. depending on finances, and when we are ready.
We are not preventing it but not 100% trying either. I am not on bc and have not been for over a year now due to medicial issues it has no effect on my body. Right now we have a lot going on and with stress I seriously doubt it will happen for us. Also we would like H to have his career in place. We would like to be pregnant within the next year if not the next 6 months. '
We will just wait and see. However we do have ab it of a timeline since my MOH is getting married Nov 2013 about 3 hours away and we will have to travel. I don't want to be huge in her wedding but I don't want to wait a year and a half to start trying.
We won't be having any children as I am not able to have children. I am one of those people who is fine with this, although it did take some time for me to get here after finding out. I feel like there is a reason for me not being able to get pregnant and have children. I believe there is always a higher purpose for the things I can't understand and this is one of those and am not going to push the issue and try everything possible to have a baby. The doctors basically told me I have a 2% chance of ever getting pregnant and then if by some miracle I did, we would literally have to decide if we wanted to continue the pregnancy for my health and babies health. Being told this was the hardest thing I've ever heard, but the idea of deciding on my life and another human beings almost makes me sick. I don't have that desperate need to be a mother. I live vicariously through my sister and my beautiful niece and nephew!
We want kids.. but not necessarily right now. I was a little freaked after the HM that I might be pregnant due to sporadically taking my BC on the HM.. but i'm not. If I was we both would have been fine with it... kind of went with the I guess it was meant to be mentality..
Long story short... we're enjoying us right now. We had this converstaion alst night actually. We want to take another year to enjoy us and get some of our reno's done... and then after that we'll see what happens!
we definitely want kids!!! i've always wanted to be a mom, and he's always wanted kids also. before we got married i was having these CRAZY baby cravings, like i wanted babies NOW!! then, almost immediately after we got married i was like, "holy crap!! i'm not ready for babies!!!!!! nnnoooooo!!!!"
we still want babies.... eventually. like a lot of you, we're just enjoying each other and being married for the time being
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We are both going to be 35 in Sept so we decided to have the IUD removed a month before the wedding. What happens happens, we aren't really trying, but we aren't doing anything to prevent a pregnancy either. If we aren't pregnant in a year we'll address the topic further.
We want kids but will be waiting a couple of years. We are already getting asked by friends and family, ahh!
We rented a Mustang for the wedding and H was talking about how it would be cool to have one and MIL said "yeah but it would be hard to get a car seat in there" lol
Wow, so many different feelings on this topic! Well, here is mine to add to the mix:
We are also 21 & 22 and definitely waiting awhile. Initially when we got engaged we had talked about waiting until we were both close to 30 (9-10 years!!) but the more we have discussed it we think we may end up trying sooner. Both of our parents are relatively old for our ages (around 60) and we want to do our best to make sure they are able to watch their grandchildren grow up. We decided that we would seriously think about trying in 4-5 years but would revisit the topic sooner to start planning. We also want a house and another furbaby before we move onto real kids.
At the same time, once we got within a couple months of the wedding we stopped being "extra safe" if you will beyond my BC, and now we're officially only using actual BC. If it happens it's not the end of the world, but we are definitely not trying at all.
I am slightly surprised that no one has mentioned this... Since I sort of have a full-time job, but it's only subbing full time ish but someone recently left so I may take the position full-time and DH is up for a promotion. So if we both get these jobs then I would feel comfortable money wise to have a baby sooner than later, but I kind of like our life the way it is now. Now that I am closer to my family and friends I see what I get to do that my sister who has my nephew and my friend with a baby don't get to do.
I used to feel like I needed to have a baby by the time I was 25 (I am 25 now) but I don't right now, I am okay with having a baby at 27-28, and then a second at 32-33.
I definitely want children, there is no doubt in my mind about that.