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Help me.
Because I like to have my life figured out, planned out, etc.. these kind of decisions really get to me... And I make it more difficult than it has to be, but hear me out. 
So, will you make my decision for me?
I apologize if this is long (or TMI).. and I think I've brought this up before. But now its actually here.
We have been TTC for 3 months. Nothing. I'm kinda bummed, but knew it takes an average of 3+ months, so not surprised.
My next 2 cycles would mean my approx due dates would be at the end of March, then April. I'm in a wedding on 4/27. Both of those two dates, definately the last is too close. The wedding is about 3.5 hours away.
I've considered stopping for the next 3 months. That is what brought up going to Disney World. DH doesn't want to, so I may end up going with a friend. We haven't decided yet though.
So.. what should I do, or what would you do?
Keep trying, even if that means I can't make it to the wedding? (Does this make me selfish? I really want to keep trying, I've got my heart set on that, but I'd hate to let my friend down. I've talked to her about it, she said to do whatever makes me happy & I'm sure she understands.. but I would feel really bad.)
Stop, and go to Disney World. (In the big picture, 3 months of waiting is nothing & I should have fun!)
Thanks for letting me vent. 
Re: Help me.
Here's my thoughts...If you were to ask the TGP board, they would all say not to plan your life around TTC. I actually just read a post about it this morning, where some girl wanted to pass up going on a girls-only trip with some of her family because that would be when she was most fertile. The girls on that board were telling her to go on the trip because she would probably regret it if she stayed home and it wasn't her most fertile time or if she didn't get pregnant.
With that being said, your scenarios are a bit different. When are you wanting to take a trip to Disney? I'm guessing if you can convince DH to go, you'll go in October, but when would you want to go with a friend? (Still think DH would have a blast!!!)
I personally wouldn't hold off on TTC. You never know what will happen...you may get pregnant in this cycle or next, but you may not. I don't think it makes you selfish if you were to get pregnant and can't go to the wedding. I wouldn't want to postpone TTC until further due to the fact that I'm in the wedding.
Sorry if that is a bunch of rambling, but I personally don't think I would hold off on TTC because like you said, it could take 3+ months.
TTC since June 2012
THIS
If there are things directly involving your life (planned vacations, etc) then I feel it's ok to work TTC around it. But I wouldn't take everyone else's lives into account, or else you'll never end up trying for the darn kid because something is always going on with someone you know!
We're going to TTC in a few months, but I need to plan it around my busy season at work to make sure the 4 months of the year that are super duper busy aren't affected by any maternity leave I'd have to take.
We have been sorta TTC (if it happens it happens) since October. I am still a bit bummed that we didn't get a HM baby since I was fertile during it. But oh well. If I had major plans already in place, like a big vacation or work responsibilities for example, I would just skip that month if the timing didn't work out. I would not put my life on hold for someone else. I also do not expect anyone to put their life on hold for me. I would be so sad if I missed my best friends wedding but me having a baby is more important to me then going to a wedding (at the moment).
I wouldn't put my life on hold for someone else's wedding. I would keep TTC and see what happens. Like scamberlous suggested, also start tracking your BBT and using opk's and all that if you're not already. I've been lurking on TB TTGP board and have learned a lot about my body already! I've been off BCP since Feb (not trying, not preventing), but have been actively TTC (taking temps, using OPKs, checking CM) since last month - who knew so much went into trying to get pregnant especially after being on BCP for many years lol - and especially for someone like me who is a planner.
Goodluck with whatever decision you make...
If Disney & being in the wedding both mean a good deal to you, then maybe waiting three or four months is perfectly okay. 3 months of waiting really isn't a great deal of time if it fits into your plan for having children.
If I absolutely wanted to have a child by next April, my priority would be TTC. I'd also be prepared to possibly not be in the wedding because my life plans lead me in a different direction.
It's a hard decision, but I think you'll know what to do!
Thanks for all the input! After talking it over, I've decided to continue TTC & not do the trip. Whatever happens, happens! Hopefully my friend will be okay with it if I'm not able to be in the wedding, but I'll cross that bridge when/if it comes.
For those of you that were asking about how I was tracking, I was using OPKs. I haven't started temping yet, but I may try.. because I haven't had much luck with the OPKs. I'm going to look more into that... maybe that will help!
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