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Open Letter
Dear Facebook,
Why must you torture me by showing me my ex-husband's wedding pictures when other people "like" or comment them? Can't you just leave it between them and keep me out of it instead of sucker punching me every single time? Might be time to start deleting people though I do not want to hurt anyone's feelings....
Sincerely,
A betrayed ex-wife taking continued beatings
Dear Ex,
Seriously? You get MARRIED just one year after youre divorced... almost to the day? You couldn't have given it a little more healing time or taken even just a day to be single and honor your first marriage? ... sigh. I feel very sorry for you ... and I feel ashamed to ever have believed a single vow you said on our wedding day, ashamed to think that you deserved me for even a second... and I struggle everyday with hating and loathing you... let alone having not one shred of respect for you, but alas, that helps me heal and be thankful to not have been sentenced to a life with someone who would do the things you have done.
Still healing and asking God for help to forgive you,
Grateful to be your EX-wife
Dear boyfriend,
You're amazing. I wish I wasn't so scarred and jaded. Thank you for just holding me when I cry over Father's Day. On the one side, I wish I had met you years ago. I think I would have survived my difficult life moments much better with you at my side. On the other side, I feel thankful for a fresh start with you. Please be patient. I'm still healing.... and I'm not sure I'll ever not feel some pain and betrayal over my past. Thank you for loving me as I've never been loved and for understanding my pain.
Lovingly in awe of you,
The woman who loves you
Re: Open Letter
#1-BFP 08-22-09 ~ M/C 08-31-09 at 5 weeks 6 days
#2-BFP 08-6-11 ~ Due 04/18 ~ born via c-section April 22, 2012
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((hugs)) I'm sorry, Crystal.
I can't believe your ex has remarried already. I'm glad to read that you have a great support system in the new man in your life.
We've been divorced for a year, separated for a year and 8 months or so... he hooked up with her right when we separated, well before we decided on divorce but then they held of officially getting together until a week or two or so after we filed for divorce (it takes 6 mos to finalize in Cali)... so they've officially been together for a little over a year and a half or so.... I just feel sorry that he had no time on his own to be single, to process, to figure out who he really is. Man, I took a year to do that and it was the most amazing time of my LIFE. Dont get me wrong, I love being in a relationship now but that year was gold to me and I will cherish it the rest of my life knowing I had that time to just be me, fall in love with God again, figure out who I was apart from a partner. I just think without that time, man, how do you know who you are, what your feelings are, how do you begin to heal for reals in a healthy way without just shoving it all down, etc. It was good to take time to go through the myriad of emotions, cry, be angry, pray, write, read, reflect, learn, grow, figure out who I am, reestablish ME and MY faith, not based on someone else or pleasing someone else or what they want of me. Then, the best thing is when it was time to start dating again, I was like "this is who I am, take it or leave it." I didn't/dont have to pretend to be anything I'm not or compromise on who I am and what I believe and God brought me many who did not fit but then he brought me one who fits perfectly accepts me for everything I am, good and bad, my awful sins in the past, the beauty he sees in me, the ENTIRE package. Being in a relationship with someone who fits perfectly is sooo much better than being with someone who we're always trying to make it fit with, but doesn't quite fit right. There's no drama, no upheaval, no worry or anxiety, no feeling incomplete... It was so worth the wait. Regardless of hurt, I want what's best for the ex. I truly do... I wanted him to find and marry a Godly, Christian woman who would strengthen his faith... but he made his choice and I think he is probably happy.... but I do continue to pray for him as any marriage brings challenges but this life will bring many challenges with that marriage.
All that being said, I didn't want to see it on facebook but now that I've seen them all... maybe it actually helped to put him even more behind me. What kind of man does what he did? Not the kind I want to be standing next to ME in wedding pictures. Makes me glad that I have my own wedding pictures to look forward to next year next to a man who honors God and fully obeys his word, truly knows who he is and doesn't compromise that for anyone, someone who loves me more than he loves himself, is gentle and above all humble... I've never been with a humble man before... it humbles me, too.
So all in all, the whole situation just makes me feel even more blessed.