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Weight struggles.....can't use these excuses anymore!

I seem to be on a downward spiral when it comes to eating right these days. To be honest, in the past month, I've given up on trying to eat healthy, and it's only made me more depressed....I feel like i'm using the "I'm a newlywed, I'm still in the honemoon phase etc." excuses!

I'm technically a weight watchers lifetime member, although I haven't gone to a meeting in months...I originally lost about 35lbs, kept it off for a few years, but now, I'm just eating carelessly, not working out and gaining weight rapidly.

H loves me for me, he's not worried/concerned about how I look, and if I say something bad about myself he's quick to say something to try and make me smile, but on the inside, I'm miserable. I don't feel right, my clothes that I love don't fit anymore, and getting dressed every morning has become a struggle.

I feel like I have no self control anymore, I buy food I know I shouldn't eat, and then feel gulty after. I also have minimal time (or so it seems) after work to do any exercising. I desperatly need to find an activity that I love but that also gets my body moving.

I'm not sure why I'm posting this....maybe to get some inspiration from you all about how I can start to take care of myself again....or maybe others are feeling this way and can relate to my (hopefully temporary) situation...

I know there are fitness boards on TN, but I feel more comfortable talking to you ladies who I "know" better than the other ppl on here..

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Missing Our July Sparkler
BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron <3

Re: Weight struggles.....can&#039;t use these excuses anymore!

  • I feel THE SAME WAY.  H is always there to jump in and correct me whenever I say something negative about myself, but he can't interject my thoughts that I never say out loud! I used to do all kinds of sports so it was easy to stay in shape, but now that I don't have teams relying on me, I just don't have the motivation to do it on my own.  I have a history of eating disorders so even though I've gained everything back (and THEN SOME), I still have that anorexic mentality and it's easy for me to skip a meal every once in a while and not tell H about it. I need an exercise buddy to go to classes with and I've been trying to find an activity that I really like.  Here's what I've tried or am planning on trying, maybe you'll find one of these fun :-)

    -Yoga

    -Zumba

    -Rock climbing

    -Spinning

    -Boxing

    -Martial Arts (esp. Capoiera)

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  • Your post is something I could've written myself just now, including losing a lot years ago and gaining it back. It also didn't help that I ended up having to gain weight to fit into my wedding dress, just when I was in the swing of good habits and losing weight. I'm feeling the same way you are right now. But I just told myself "Baby steps, baby steps...". That's what I'm reminding myself literally every second of everyday; every food or "elevator vs stairs" choice. Sometimes I'm good, sometimes I'm awful. I'm still not consistent enough with working out, so now I'm being sure to at least take a brisk walk on my work breaks. But this comes and goes in cycles too. I know it's temporary though, I know it! If not now, then when? May as well be now, I guess. And they say taking enough baby steps should eventually become a steady habit, right? Hopefully we'll both be back on track soon, OP, along with anyone else in the struggle. 
  • I've always had a problem with my weight. I work really hard lose some weight and then get side-tracked and gain it back (and then some). I've been trying to use married life as a new beginning to start acting healthier. It also helps that DH is gone for work this week and next and he's my bad influence!

    Things that have worked for me:

    My Fitness Pal - helps me keep track of what I eat and my exercise

    Walking - I HATE running with a firey passion. I started the couch to 5k program last year but it was too easy to come up with excuses. For about a week and a half now as soon as I come home I change and take the dog for a 2 mile walk. So far so good.

    Zumba - LOVE IT!! It doesn't feel like working out! I try and go once a week, but it doesn't always happen.

    Would you ladies be interested in a daily post? It wouldn't have to be an accountability post, maybe just a daily check in? We could share our successes when we've been good and look for encouragement and advice when we're not doing so well.

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  • I lost 100lbs 3 years ago and I have gained back like 35 in the past year and a half. I feel like I really need the motivation. GRRR!
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  • Same as op and others...I was doing so well before wedding fell off track! I would love to have a daily post to keep us going on healthy habits! 
    "Anyone can be passionate, but it takes real lovers to be silly"
  • imagebpphoto785:

    I've always had a problem with my weight. I work really hard lose some weight and then get side-tracked and gain it back (and then some). I've been trying to use married life as a new beginning to start acting healthier. It also helps that DH is gone for work this week and next and he's my bad influence!

    Things that have worked for me:

    My Fitness Pal - helps me keep track of what I eat and my exercise

    Walking - I HATE running with a firey passion. I started the couch to 5k program last year but it was too easy to come up with excuses. For about a week and a half now as soon as I come home I change and take the dog for a 2 mile walk. So far so good.

    Zumba - LOVE IT!! It doesn't feel like working out! I try and go once a week, but it doesn't always happen.

    Would you ladies be interested in a daily post? It wouldn't have to be an accountability post, maybe just a daily check in? We could share our successes when we've been good and look for encouragement and advice when we're not doing so well.

    Love the idea of a daily post! I don't even mind the accountability thing. 

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  • imagebpphoto785:

    I've always had a problem with my weight. I work really hard lose some weight and then get side-tracked and gain it back (and then some). I've been trying to use married life as a new beginning to start acting healthier. It also helps that DH is gone for work this week and next and he's my bad influence!

    Things that have worked for me:

    My Fitness Pal - helps me keep track of what I eat and my exercise

    Walking - I HATE running with a firey passion. I started the couch to 5k program last year but it was too easy to come up with excuses. For about a week and a half now as soon as I come home I change and take the dog for a 2 mile walk. So far so good.

    Zumba - LOVE IT!! It doesn't feel like working out! I try and go once a week, but it doesn't always happen.

    Would you ladies be interested in a daily post? It wouldn't have to be an accountability post, maybe just a daily check in? We could share our successes when we've been good and look for encouragement and advice when we're not doing so well.

    Yes I think that would be great!

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    Missing Our July Sparkler
    BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
    BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron <3

  • I feel the exact same way as OP. I can't stay motivated. I know what I am doing isn't helping but I do it anyways. I wish I could just flip a switch and make myself have self control.
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  • totally in that boat... i would LOVE a daily post.... i am miserable... i always used to be slender with curves (like size 2-4) and after i met H i started gaining weight.... i know alot was because i was comfortable and happy... and then, BOOM.... weight gain extravaganza.... i'm now about 25 lbs over where i want to be....

    sunday night H (who has also gained about 35lbs) was saying how terrible he feels, and that we're changing something.... i was thrilled! i'm one of those people that need help with this stuff... can't do it by myself... so, he got the elliptical out so we'd do it...

     i'm proud of myself, he only did it for like 5 minutes, and i did it at a great pace for about 20 minutes last night! it felt amazing... and then later he was eating pudding and graham crackers for a snack and i was sitting there starving.... but, i didn't have a snack. and today i ate my normal half bagel for breakfast, small can of ravioli (not the best i know) for lunch, and i'm dying for a snack... but i'm NOT getting one.... i'm not....

    anyways... long story short, i feel your pain OP.... i think a daily thread on here would be great... i could use some encouragement as well.....

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  • I was really good before the wedding and H and I have been horrible since.  We go out way to much and have been getting ice cream multiple times a week!  We also stopped working out before the wedding....and last night was our first night back at the gym!!  I feel like every week something is coming up where we have to go out for meals and I'm sick of it!!

     

    I think an accountability post would be great!!

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  • I really need to try Zumba. I lately hate most other forms of exercise, but everyone says Zumba is the way to go. hmm.
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  • I'm right there with everyone.  I lost about 22 pounds before the wedding, but have slowing started gaining.  Not fun.  I tried posting in the accountability posts on TK, but I personally didn't think it was very effective.  But, I'm not really coming up with a better suggestion!  I'd be happy to join in any type of accountability food/workout plan that we come up with!
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  • I would love a daily post! I think it would really help motivate me to do some work outs or something!

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  • i've noticed i've been gaining lately too... i keep telling myself to get a handle on it NOW because it'll be more difficult the longer i put it off (and the more i gain).  my mom is very overweight, and since my sister had her kid she's had trouble losing weight so i'm trying to get a hold of it now before it becomes a bigger problem later.

    i think a daily post would be beneficial for a lot of people.  we could share recipes, healthy eating links, and exercise ideas.

    i tried zumba, but i think i'm too 'white girl' for that. haha  i'm with whoever said they hated running with a fiery passion, that is also me... i enjoy walking my dog though. 

    before the wedding i would do jillian michael's 30 day shred in the morning before work, i keep saying i'll start it again tomorrow.... that's been about 2 weeks straight now :-P

  • I'm definitely in this boat with all of you!  A daily post would be great!

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  • I have gained probably ten-fifteen pounds since Greg and I started dating (2.5 years ago).  Before the wedding I dropped some by not eating carbs for a few weeks, but obvioulsy those came right back when I started to eat normal.  We go out to eat way too much, and I am pretty sure the drinks put on a lot of my extra weight.  I've also basically stopped working out.  A few years ago when I was in the best shape of my adult life (about 20 pounds less than I am now) I worked out with a workout buddy, and having the accountablity really helped.  I was also more generally active, I played tennis pretty regularly and took my dog on long hikes most weekends.  I really need to get back to that. 

    I would love to post daily about working out, recipes, etc.  And, just to have someone to "confess" to when I mess up. 

  • I think a daily post would be great! I didn't lose as much weight as I wanted for the wedding and now I'm really trying to get in shape for our honeymoon in August! 
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