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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
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Re: say anything Tuesday
My a-hole neighbor is usually off on Monday's when I am. I had to switch my day this week so I'm off today and guess who's home--yep, him.
DH and I have long overdue date on Saturday and I cannot wait.
Neither of my sisters are coming to my baby shower - one because she has to take care of her 20-year old son who is having his wisdom teeth removed the day before, and one because she's going to her high school reunion. I know everyone has lives and it's childish to be disappointed, but... I am. That said, I supper-love my best friend who is throwing this shin-dig for me and I'm excited to see those who are able to make it. I know showers for second babies are taboo, but I'm looking forward to mine.
The sister I fought with last week still hasn't apologized and thinks that she and I are fine because I didn't continue the pissing match we were having via email. She's hunky-dory, but I apologized for my part in the pissing match. I resent that I have to ASK for an apology from a 44-year old who insulted her own sister. Out of stubbornness, I refuse to, and thus, we are at an impasse. Me=Child.
I haven't showered since Saturday and I look like shiz. I'm having trouble finding the energy to care.
I'm still laughing over "Doesn't this just involve lunging at him like a brightly colored walrus?" And if you have no idea what I'm talking about, please read this article http://jezebel.com/5919206/cosmos-44-most-ridiculous-sex-tips (WARNING: Content may not be safe for work, as it's aaaaaall about sex. Also: you'll laugh hysterically. And if you don't, we can no longer be friends.).
Dani - my sister skipped my baby shower out of spite.
I had a little come to jesus meeting w/ myself a few weeks ago about my spending and I've been doing pretty good reining it in. Its sort of a PITA, but not as bad as I expected either, I feel like an-ass for not doing this like 2 years ago. I think I figured out how to do it "my way" instead of DH's way so its better.
I really do dread these family vacations w/ DH's family. His parents and SIL and her family are fine and I enjoy them, but BIL and his wife and kids are really difficult to deal with and everybody tiptoes around them and I just don't do that well and its stressful to me to watch everybody silently try to kiss ass. Its also weird, b/c we're not really that close or no one seems to want to be that close, we all live w/in 2 hours of each other, so we could GTG pretty often, but nobody makes the effort. I'd rather have short regular GTGs than this week long stretch all in one house. Its hard. (we've discussed skipping it, but honestly that would be far worse and probably break MIL's heart which I don't want to do either).
I applied for a promotion at work. I've reached as far up in the ladder as I can go as far as the GS level, so now I only get step increases automatically, instead of the bigger grade increases I was getting (poor poor me, I know), so in order to move up I have to apply. I am so nervous about getting it, the increase would really help once #2 gets here and starts day care. My tiny confession about this is that DH is the only one who knows I've applied for it because if I don't get it I'm going to be really embarassed.
On the same note, we were on vacation Tuesday to Saturday. So I was supposed to be off Tues-Friday. Something came up on Monday afternoon and I told them I would come in Tuesday morning for an emergency briefing. Afterwards my boss thanked me and told me that the fact I came in and pushed back leaving for vacation spoke volumes for my character and dedication to our mission and I spent the 11 hour drive really happy. I'm also hoping that is fresh in the minds of management (as well as some other kick azz things I've done recently-tooting my own horn here)when they decide who get's the promotions (there are 3 slots).
When I was pregnant with DS we had our big basement reno going on. And as much as I really did enjoy those weekly Friday night trips to Home Depot, I kind of hoped that for our next pregnancy, we *wouldn't* have a major reno going on. Now it looks like TTC #2 might overlap a reno again, but we will have to wait to see how things pan out.
I haven't worn my wedding rings in over a year because they don't fit anymore. I can't even blame pregnancy either because my pregnancy weight (+5-10lbs) is gone, but I'm still 20-ish lbs over my wedding weight. I want to wear my freaking rings again though so I'm sucking it up and getting them resized.
I have been dying my hair for almost 20 years. Usually it's just 1 color, but I've done highlights in all colors, different base colors, etc. I kind of want to do something more drastic than usual but I'm not sure if I'm too old to pull it off and I don't know if I will be able to keep up with maintaining it.
BFP#1: 01/10, M/C 6w -- BFP#2: 06/10, M/C 5w -- BFP#3: 09/10, DS born June 1, 2011
BFP#4: 07/12, M/C 5w3d -- BFP#5: 12/12, EDD 08/18/13
Decorate This
All I want to do lately is spend money. I'm not, but I want to, really really bad.
I am so over our shithole house and neighborhood. We now have a foreclosure on our block, so yay, my property value will probably go down even further. And I really wish the people in my neighborhood would stop renting out their units to dirtbags.
I got a call from Daycare at 9:00 a.m. this morning (I had only been at work for hour and half) that A had a fever. As soon as my boss walked in, I was walking out. She made a comment under her breath that I was abusing my time. I raced home, picked up both kids and took them home. My aunt came up, so I could head back to work, which is where I'm currently at. I would of taken the whole day off, but I'm taking a half day on Friday.
We have a meeting with the realtor on Friday. He emailed us last week to say that he thought we could get a certain $$ for it. We are crossing our fingers. If we can't sell the TH, at least it's motivated us to clean up/fix up. DH painted the ceiling in the living room, stairwell and upstairs hallway.
I have big dreams what my next house will be like and I'm not seeing anything out there that is jumping out at me.
Remy, I am so with you on both of these (esp. the first). I'm so sick of our little 2 BR house, at least our neighbors on the whole are very nice and friendly (one found our missing cat this weekend!). I just want to move to a SFH and be done with moving for the forseeable future. I don't know why I torture myself looking at RE online, seeing great prices for houses in crofton.
Jen, I hope all goes well selling your house!
I have spending problem too. I looked at my cc bill from last month and I noticed a trend in spending money on food and kid clothes. We really have to stick to a budget now that we have two in daycare.
Oh and I also vent about how much daycare cost these days. I was talking to someone here at work about it and they were like, in my day it cost $200 a month. Well lady that was like 40 years ago, and I spend $1600 a month.
If we have 2 in daycare (at our current place which we like/love - it will be ~2900/mo). I'm starting to realize that since we need to be socking away money for retirement, plus paying for college in ~20 years, I'm not really sure I can see paying for another 5 years of daycare for a 2nd baby. It makes me sad to make my family planning based on that, but seriously - WTF world are we living in where it costs 3K for daycare??
haha Jen, when I tell people at work who don't have kids that I paid $300 a week for DS the first 2 years their jaws drop open, it's absolute shock. And then I tell them we pay $243 a week now and then will add another infant price to that in January and I always get something to the effect of "how the hell does anyone afford to have kids these days." I actually laugh because really that's all you can do!
I think this is where DH and I are at with out family planning, too. I guess I could switch daycares, but I hate to do that to DD since she really likes it there.
This is right about what we pay and will pay once we have two in daycare. I keep telling myself that it will be over before we know it, and good care and a quality education is very important to us so of course it'll be worth it...but dam daycare is expensive! We realize we will be "daycare broke" but hey we will still be able to pay our bills and our kids will be well taken care of, so that's what is important, right? Sigh.
I've just pretty much accepted that for the next couple of years there won't much eating out, fancy vacations, or mani/pedis. Our daycare bill is $1600 a month.....we could have a vacation house for that price. But yeah, actually that is not too bad for one infant and one (almost) 3 year old in this area.