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To move or not to move.
My husband and I have been living in my mother's attic since we got married. At first it was ok but now we are out growing the space.
I had began working on the basement of the house trying to update it and make it more cozy so we could have more space. However, my husband seems to be very unhappy with this arrangement now though hes trying to bare through it.
The issue is my mother and sister are very moody ppl and my 98 year old grandfather has dementia and it seems to be taking a toll on our marriage. We argue constantly about issues that really have nothing to do with us, and suddenly my husband and mother are starting to bumb heads about how things in the house are ran and her interfering in our marital affairs.
Im trying to make this work because I am the only on working right now between my husband and I and although I can afford to pay rent else where but it would very tight..
Help! Should we stay or should we go???
Re: To move or not to move.
If you are financially able to - move.
"We argue constantly about issues that really have nothing to do with us..." Fighting over things you have no control over is silly.
And can I ask why your husband isn't working? Can he at the very least get a PT job to help out?
WEll, I do too wonder about your DH's job situation. Is he looking? Why can't he find a job? Would even a job at McD's help you all out enough? If so, why won't he look for a job like that?
Past that, if living in your moms home isn't working, then move.
BUT your DH (if he isn't) needs to be doing all he can to help make this happen (i.e. be REALLY looking hard for a job)
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Agreed - granted we don't know the whole situation but I hope this isnt a matter of him being too proud.
This
You and your husband need your own place. Living with other family members is jeopardizing your marriage.
That said, you also need more income. Is your husband currently looking for work? That should be a priority. Also, you should look hard at your budget and see if there is anything that can be eliminated for the time being.