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WWYD - job/moving related
DH is in the final interview stages for a job out of state. The process has been long and drawn out (over 2 months). They knew we were on a tight time constraint when he applied, and the original plan was to have the person start by 7/2, then changed to 7/16. Our lease is up 7/15 so if we are not leaving we need to make living arrangements immediately. (We will stay with my parents if we move).
They called last Wed to set up a "follow up" for either Fri or Mon (yesterday). She got his availability and said she would e-mail him to set it up, but never did. He e-mailed her on Friday to check in and she never responded. He is going to try calling if he doesn't hear from her today. He really doesn't want to be a jerk and go over her head, but we need to have an answer by the end of this week or he is going to have to pull out of the running.
So here's my questions: 1. Would you go over her head if need be? 2. Would you tell them you need an answer by the end of the week? 3. If so, how would you go about doing that?
Re: WWYD - job/moving related
Sorry, but you have no say in how this company is using their time. Yes, it is annoying when things change BUT it is very common on the hiring process to have these things change, sometime multiple times.
This company is NOT required to make things easier for you or comply with your needs. They are hiring so it is their prerogative to do what is best for their company- sometime things get delayed. It's part of the business world!
So if your DH doesn't feel he can work around these issues successfully then yes, he should pull himself out of contention.
Understandably it is stressful, but think about it this way- if you were the hiring manager, what type of impression would you form about a person who makes demands from a company to do things on "their schedule" when they don't even work there yet?
Is there any way you can talk to your landlord about doing a monthly lease or seeing if he can extend you for another month or two? At least then it would be easier and better way for him to find a tenant.
We just had the same experience with my H's new job. The process started in January and did not finish up until mid April. He was told he was due to start the job in mid March. It was a damn pain in the ass but absolutely worth the wait for us. He now makes double what he made before, they paid for us to move and we have much better insurance.
To answer your questions.
1. No I would absolutely not go over her head. Why would you want to piss someone off that you are trying to get a job from?
2. You could express concern over getting an answer sooner and state why but sometimes it just takes longer than they think and it is out of their control. If this is such a great opportunity, I think you both need to figure out a way to stay where you are or move to a place that will take you month to month or put your stuff in storage and stay at your mom's until you get final word. If it doesn't work out, just get another lease somewhere and consider the storage fee as a savings in rent money that month.
I don't think you should take him out of the running because you don't like their timeline. You could absolutely find a solution to this, it just might not be fun or easy.
you both need to RELAX and not be pushy. dont go over her head!!! why on earth would you? so what if htey knew? they're the ones hiring. they can do it on their schedule.
why would you tell her you need an answer by the end of the week? will you die if you dont get one? no. sure it might be incovenient for a week or 2 but who cares? if the job is so worth it than it's no big deal. make arrangements just in case you need to stay for a week or 2 so that you can be as available as possible.
and for crying out loud. relax.
You don't have to leave your apartment just because your lease is up. I know it seems like you have to leave at midnight when the lease expires, but you don't. It's your place of residence and it takes months *literally* to force you to get out through a legal eviction process. Not that it would even come to that. Just inform your landlord that you are staying through the end of the month, and then month-to-month after that.
It would be a shame if someone else is lined-up to take-over the apartment after you planned to leave. But that's not your problem. Just be clear with your plans to your landlord, and pay your rent and continue to live there.
Good luck with the job. Hope he gets the interivew soon. Go with their timeframe, stay in the apartment and hopefully he gets the job and rushes to start in July. Best wishes!