Awkwardish Gift Question

mandi921vh · June 2012

After our wedding my sister told me that she wanted to give us a patio set for our wedding gift when I was telling her we were going to buy one with some of our wedding money.

She hasn't said anymore about getting it for us, or anything about what we would like... now that it's summer we have found ourselves wishing we had one already... We have found one we like, but the thing is she never told us how much she was planning to spend... we would be fine splitting the cost with her whatever way she wants...

I guess I just don't know how to bring it up again, and ask her how much she was planning to spend because we would be fine splitting the cost.

spalko · June 2012

I don't know that I would bring it up. I know it is your sister but it still seems inappropriate to bring it up. I would just say something along the lines of, 'Hubby and I were thinking of buying a new patio set but we can't decide on which one we'd like to get. Which one do you think?' That might open the door more so than you flat out asking. Just my opinion though

vineyard12 · June 2012

spalko:
I don't know that I would bring it up. I know it is your sister but it still seems inappropriate to bring it up. I would just say something along the lines of, 'Hubby and I were thinking of buying a new patio set but we can't decide on which one we'd like to get. Which one do you think?' That might open the door more so than you flat out asking. Just my opinion though

I agree with spalko. I would just mention you guys found something you like and want her opinion. That hopefully will open the door to the conversation. Money, even with family, is so tricky to bring up.

AurorasEnvy · June 2012

That is kind of an awkward situation. I guess I'd probably just buy the set you want, or tell her you are planning to - then she can either volunteer to pay for some/part of it, or she could just give you money towards something else or maybe get you another gift that wasn't fulfilled on your registry.

Melissa51212 · June 2012

I agree with PP...if you found a set you like and you want to use it, you should just get it but maybe bring her in the discussion. It might spark her to send some money or what not.

mancila60 · June 2012

I agree with Spalko on this one. I think I would bring it up but not directly asking her and if she doesn't mention anything about pitching in or her part then just move on and drop it all together. Either way you get patio furniture right?

KissaC18 · June 2012

AurorasEnvy:
That is kind of an awkward situation. I guess I'd probably just buy the set you want, or tell her you are planning to - then she can either volunteer to pay for some/part of it, or she could just give you money towards something else or maybe get you another gift that wasn't fulfilled on your registry.

I agree with AurorasEnvy!!

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