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If they are not registered, do you give them cash?

Okay, my husband and I (both in our mid thirties) are invited to a wedding (the couple is in their early 40s...not sure if this is their first marriage or not).  In the invitation there was no mention of where they are registered.  I sent the bride an email and asked and she replied that they were not registered...thanked me for my thoughtfulness and said that she was excited that we would be sharing her special day with her.  So do we still get them something?  Do we give cash?

Re: If they are not registered, do you give them cash?

  • I think that's up to you.  Presumably at their age, they have 2 sets of everything and maybe even their own houses, so I'd lean toward a charity donation in their honor.
  • I would still write a check or give a present for the wedding.  They are still hosting, and paying for an event.  In my opinion, you always give an approximate cost of what they are paying per person.  I don't see why age, possibility/probability of them having two sets of things or the second wedding are really factors.  have fun!
  • I recently read an advice column about wedding gift etiquette and it said that a gift is a gift and that the dollar amount you spend is really up to you.  You are not expected to "cover your plate," as the author stated.

    If they don't have a registry, I think a gift card to a nice restaurant or something similar would be nice (movie tickets, museum, etc). 

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  • Re: If they don't have a registry, I think a gift card to a nice restaurant or something similar would be nice (movie tickets, museum, etc).

    That would be very cute.  We usually just give $. 

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  • I would give them cash/check, because like a PP said, at their age they probably have everything they need already.
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  • At their age, I'm thinking they have the household items that others normally register for.  I agree, cash or a gift card is an appropriate gift. 

    Now, if it were someone that was tacky and specifically asked for cash for their wedding then I'd head to the Dollar Tree and get the ugliest set of wind chimes you can find. 

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  • I know this is  regional thing but give cash. We only received two gifts for our wedding and neither were given the day of.
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  • I'm from the NYC area, where I know weddings are much more over the top than the rest of the country and all of our wedding gifts are cash, except for my SIL's.  I agree with another poster who said they are still paying for the party.  We generally try to cover the cost of our plate unless the wedding is at somewhere ridiculosly expensive....
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