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Doctor Appointment
So yesterday H took off work so we could take MIL to the doctor. Getting her out of the house is such a hassle by myself with the wheelchair and stuff so I needed extra help. Anyways so we get her there and they do blood work and say that her sodium count is up (yay me!) so whatever I am doing has been working. Also they said everything else looked good.
We talked to the nurse a while about things going on and changes with her. She wrote them all down and asked about her medications which everything is fine with. And then the doctor came in!
She asked him about doing chemo/radiation (treatments) again and he said NO! The reason being because everything they have done so far hasn't worked they way it should and more treatments would only make her body worse. So far it has just made her weaker and weaker and her body just can't handle it, he also said if they did do it she would end up in the hospital again and may not get out.
Then she asked about being able to live alone again. His response: not anytime soon. She needs someone with her all the time for safety reasons more than anything else. And also for the fact that living with us she is getting better nutrition than she ever has living alone. Plus she can't live alone while on hospice.
Her final question was without treatment how much longer do I have. He then said that it could be 2 months or 8 months but that no one knows. But without treatment it could go fast. She took this as she now has 4-6 weeks left and that is what she has been telling everyone.
While none of this is good news he didn't exactly say you have 4-6 weeks left. But since that is what she has told people we now have about 20 people wanting to come to our house this weekend to "spend time with her." And this does bother me so much because I am doing all I can to be supportive to her and to H but at the same time I'm like why do these people want to come see her now. I mean where were you a year ago or 6 months ago to do this. And I don't mean to go off on a vent right now but seriously I would be questioning these people.
So anyways H and I have been doing lots of talking these past few days as things have started to progress with her and we have discussed putting her in a terminal illness type home but we have not talked about this with any family or anything. We are trying to get in touch with a social worker with hospice about this and other issues like MIL wanting to get a Will made out.
Anyways I just thought I'd give you ladies an update!! Thanks so much for all the prayers and thoughts! It means so much to H and I, I don't know what I would do without all of you!
Re: Doctor Appointment
I am so sorry you have to deal with all of this. And I know things have been tough since you just got married. It sounds like the road is going to be bumpy for awhile, and it sounds like you're doing well despite it all. It amazes me how people will all of a sudden come out of the woodwork when someone is not going to be around much longer. I would question these people, too, since you have been doing everything. I would definitly get a will in order, because it could get ugly when she passes. I think I would definitly consider a terminal illness home (here, they are called rehab centers). She'll get the care she needs, and it will give you a bit of a break. You are quite strong, but one girl can only handle so much. When my grandmother had cancer, they put in her in one these places. She was well taken care of, and we visited as much as possible. But we knew it was the right thing for her and us.
Stay strong and hang in there. You're doing an amazing job, and as always, my thoughts and prayers go to you and your family.
It is ok to vent and I see where you are coming from with the people wanting to come visit her now. I would be asking the same questions! You are in my prayers and I admire you for what you are doing! Stay strong and know that you can always talk!!