November 2011 Weddings
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So now that we've all been married 7 months...
So I know we all love our husbands...but DH and I were talking about this.
Now that we're several months into marriage is there anything you didn't know about your husband before you got married? Is there anything particular that he does that urks you? Is there anything about you that you think he would say urks him? And conversely, is there anything that he does that regularly gives you butterflies?
I know a lot of you lived with your husband before you were married, so I suppose you probably wouldn't necessarily have anything new, but I thought it might be a fun question.
Re: So now that we've all been married 7 months...
I feel like not a lot is new/changed because we've been together over 10 years now, and living together for over 8 of them. So we've gone through a lot of those new discoveries, lol! However, I think that I didn't expect to feel a lot differently about being married vs. just living together, but in fact I feel like we're closer emotionally, and that it's really "real" now, more so than before.
Certainly we do stuff that irks the other, but I knew about those already, so I know what I was getting into.
But I love that he still does small things to show he loves me, like offering up massages, or bringing home my favorite candy bar from the store.
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Irks not urks. Clearly I fail.
We didn't live together before we were married. That being said he did stay with me at least a couple of nights a week so it wasn't like we were totally not used to being under the same roof.
I don't think there've been any real surprises. The couple of things that irk me occasionally are: 1) he frequently leaves paper towels balled up everywhere. When I ask why he's like...oh I didn't throw it away because i thought i might reuse it. I'm like...we're not poor. We may not be rich but we can afford paper towels. Please throw them away. Also he has this habit of telling me how to do things. Like things I've done forever. And he'll see that I do it different then him and say "you should do it this way" I had a long talk with him about that and he's doing a lot better. It's hard to get mad about because I know he's trying to help but sometimes it makes me want to slap him.
I think the thing I've been most pleasantly surprised at is just how well he can read me. It just seems like he gets me, sometimes better than I do myself.
DH and I lived together for about 3 months before the wedding. If he leaves his dirty socks in the middle of the bedroom floor one more time I just might punch him in the face.
But in all seriousness, I think the only new things we've learned about each other pertain to little things like hygiene habits and how we do chores.
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Bad things: He tends to not flush the toilet when he's only gone number one. I have no idea why he does this. It was never a problem when he visited or stayed over at my house before we got married.
Good things: He loves my kitty cat even more than he did before! One night about a month after we got married, I was out of town. My husband called me almost in tears because he thought the cat might might have swallowed one of his dress shirt pins. He stayed home from his good friend's wedding rehearsal to make sure kitty was okay and called the emergency vet for advice. (Kitty was fine.)
We lived together for a few years before we got married and we'd been together for over seven years when we got married so not much was new.
He has a serious issue with short term memory that gets on my nerves as always but he still gives me butterflies daily. And he's getting to show another side of himself now that he's a Daddy-to-be.
Leaving the cabinet doors open has actually stopped...I'm surprised! He does fall asleep 10 minutes into any movie, and if he has a bad day at work the whole world will fall apart and he can't pick himself up from the couch even to get into bed. But I can live (and happily) with that!
He, on the other hand, has the (unfortunate?) task of dealing with me!
My H does that too! and now only that we have our own house. He only does it in our master bath, but ew! Flush it!!
We lived together most of relationship due to strange living situations, so nothing new has really changed in that aspect. But like several of you ladies said, growing closer emotionally has changed. And I love it. And I knew I loved him and he loved me before, but I feel like I really know it now. As crazy as that sounds.
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Not too much has changed with the living expectations since we also lived together for three years before getting married.
The new thing is his new job, new hours and this baby thing. His hours are pretty insane so getting used to him being gone so much has been hard especially when I don't feel well and haven't been able to be my normal self. My normal self would have had all boxes unpacked and rooms decorated and pictures up and now I am a slug that can barely make it up the stairs without becoming out of breathe. I feel really bad about how behind i am in dealing with the house.
This morning as he was heading to yoga (which I can't do right now and we used to do together) that when the baby comes I need him to be home on the weekends and I felt like a shrew. He was so sweet and said of course he will be there and seems very excited about the new baby. i am just a mess. I think the hormones are finally kicking in.
So bottom line, he is awesome and I am a hormonal mess. Except when he is not awesome and I want to tell him where to go shove it which luckily isn't too often.
Like others have said, we lived together for about 3 and a half years before we got married, so not too much has changed. I do FEEL different, though, being married and all, and he says he does, too. I like being young marrieds
I guess I'll see a different side to him once we're TTC, like Rae pointed out, so that's exciting.
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Gonna jump on that living together before the wedding train as well. The things that irk me haven't changed and likely never will. Lol. Things like clipping his toenails on the couch and then leaving them on a tissue on the table. I will never understand why he can't just pick up the tissue and throw them away.
I do loving having his last name, and looking down at his ring when we're laying in bed though.
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I think my favorite part is realizing how much I truly love him. People ask how I like married life and my response has constantly been "happier than I have ever been" because it's true. It's cheesy, but I just feel this overwhelming sensation of love and affection to and for him.
This. 100% this.
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