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Feeling bad about one TY card....
H's cousin's grandmother (cousin was a BM, grandmother was not invited since she's not H's grandmother) gave us a wonderful wedding gift. It was completely unexpected since she wasn't invited, but since we're living in her basement apartment, I'm thinking that this is why she sent us a gift.
We received it after we got back from the honeymoon so we planned to send the TY to her when we sent the rest of them.
We mailed all the TY's on Friday morning.....well the grandmother passed away Thursday, in the middle of the night. So now I'm feeling like a horrible person for not getting the TY to her sooner. I was going to hand deliver her TY since we live in her house, and I was going to do it Friday after work, which obviously didn't happen, so now it's just sitting on our kitchen table.....ugh I feel so terrible about this.
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Re: Feeling bad about one TY card....
Ugh, so sorry to hear. I know the default response is to feel terrible, but there really was nothing you could/did do. It's not like it's 6 months after the wedding and you just didn't do things "by the book", it's just one of those unfortunate circumstances. I'm sure wherever she is, she isn't shaking her proverbial fist at you guys.
Not really the same situation, but last time we saw BIL alive was at my shower with H's family in March. Neither we or BIL/SIL live in their hometown (each about 3 hours away). Sunday morning there were tentative plans to go to brunch with BIL/SIL and H's/SIL's father. We told them we'd go as long as it was early, as we wanted to get back & unpack all our gifts. FIL is always notorious for running late, and BIL/SIL weren't the totally punctual type either. We were getting annoyed Sunday morning because no one had called, they were obviously running late, etc. H and I had an entire car full of gifts to take home & unpack, so we just left town. On our way out of town they gave us a call and said where they were at, and we definitely could have stopped...but we decided not to. We were kind of irritated and besides just wanting to be home, we wanted to make a "point" about keeping plans when you say you are going to do them, and not an hour or two later....
3 weeks later, and BIL was killed in a car accident. I still think about us choosing not to go to brunch that last time and feeling terrible all the time about it. At the same time, there was really no way to know...
I guess I'm not sure where I'm going with this, just that it is the tendency people have to think about all the things they did/didn't do & then someone passes and it's too late. Try not to dwell on it. Sorry again to hear about her passing....