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AmandaJLewis
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S/O spoiled- responsibilities
So we just started a chore chart with Eleni last week. Basically just has some things on it that keep me from having to always pick up after her. She doesn't always do each category but is rewarded at the end of the week for the ones she does complete with money.
what are some of the things you expect your child to do around the house, and what do you wish they would help with?
Re: S/O spoiled- responsibilities
Ditto...behavior is taking precedence.
I do ask her to help with some things and make it an immediate reward or consequence. Cleaning up toys or no tv before bed, etc.
I ask her to help set the table a lot and she is usually really happy to do so. She also likes to help with cooking (what she can). I'm hoping to do more cooking stuff with her when our kitchen remodel is finished because we will have more counter space and that will help. She also usually helps with putting groceries away too. And helps with loading laundry in washer and dryer. Those chores don't seem too chore like to her because she usually thinks they are fun but it helps me out and teaches her to help out the family with certain things.
we're very informal with our system, as we don't use an actual chart, but we do reward at the end of the week based on behavior and help.
Gavin helps set the table, fold/put away his clothes (folding is hit or miss!), puts toys back in the toy box at the end of the day, puts his dishes in the sink after dinner, and overall has a good attitude when asked to do something else. If everything goes well, he gets a dollar or two. If not, then we remind him why he's getting less/nothing and we try again the following week.
My three sons!
I?m struggling with this and pondering it for two reasons?
I want to teach the kids the importance of helping out around the house because we are a family and we all chip in. I don?t really want to tie money or another reward to doing chores, or a specific punishment to not doing them. We have talked about a chore chart, but I don?t know if it will be a motivator in and of itself. And I don?t really want to say that if you get X stickers or stars that then we?ll do X activity or buy you a toy. KWIM? We do special things because we want to do them, not because the kids clean their room.
When they get older and they want to earn money for some large item, then we can talk about getting paid for doing more than their fair share. (My mom used to pay me to clean the whole house each week during summer vacation.) But I don?t want to ?pay? them now for doing minimal chores.
The second reason is that Todd and Heather just can?t have the same responsibilities right now. There are some things that they can bother be responsible for, and I?m working on ways to make it easier for Todd to be self-sufficient (coat hook at his height, low bin for his hat, etc). But there are some things that Heather can be expected to do independently that he isn?t ready to do without supervision.
To actually answer your question...
Both kids are expected to take their dirty dishes to the kitchen after a meal, put their dirty clothes in their hamper, put their shoes/hats/jackets where they belong and put toys away when they are done with them. The last one is the most hit or miss, and getting them to really do it would make me REALLY happy.
Heather is expected to dress herself, brush her teeth and clean her body in the shower/bath. Todd is expected to tell us when he needs to use the potty (still not quite there...)
Both of them are capable of helping me set the table, although since we have mostly been eating on the porch lately, we haven't been as formal about that.
When the timing works they can both also help me feed the cats, shift laundry, water the plants and empty the dishwasher. But some of these things happen after they are in bed some nights.
I think that's a great idea, and now you might have inspired me to try the same thing.
To answer your original question, Jake doesn't necessarily have any set "chores" right now, but he is expected to clear his plate and cup after meals, and push his chair in (seems silly, i know, but I have a hubby who is notorious for not pushing his chair in! gotta train this next generation!) He can dress about half of himself (shorts, underwear and socks, but needs help with the shirt). After school, he puts his shoes in the cubby space in the garage that's for him and puts his lunchbox on the kitchen counter. we're really working on toy pick up, at least at the end of the day on weekends.
Jake - 1.15.08
Liam - 5.17.11