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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Military Wife and Civilian Husband, How Do You Manage?
Hi all,
I'm in the Army and my hubby is a civilian. So our roles are reversed somewhat. We are managing alright, however, I would like to make it easier on him while I am in Afghanistan. Also I just want to know what obsticle other like couples have faced and how they got threw.
[Poll]Mrs. Sumner
Re: Military Wife and Civilian Husband, How Do You Manage?
Seriously, nobody would have any reason to make "nasty or ugly comments" to your post. But you assuming how people will respond and telling grown women how to talk really just makes me want to be a ***. Do you walk into public places often to ask a question and follow it up by telling people how they can respond to you? I bet it goes over well.
The biggest obstacle I think people face is understanding how your communication will be. Many people who have always been face to face and never dealt with only having email communication have issues with reading into things and not being able to understand emotions in emails. H and I were long distance while we dated so always did a lot of texting and were really good at reading and understanding each other through electronic communication. That's important for us because we only get to skype once a month or so when he's in ports and we limit phone calls so we aren't spending a ton on phone cards.
Also I see a lot of couples who have issues about spending money and things they do on liberty or in ports, as well as what spouses at home are doing. Talk about it before you go and come to an agreement on budgets or what you're both comfortable with. H has an allotment each pay period that goes to his cash card and he uses that in ports. If he is going to book a hotel room there he talks to me first about the cost and who he is getting the room with. At the same time I am not going out to bars and clubs while he is gone except randomly when I'm back home, and he always knows what I'm doing or who I'm with.
First of all,
Unless you're generally rude and ugly you don't have too worry about my comments? I just posted something innocent and was attack by a bunch grown women with no class yesterday. The message was for anyone who likes to impress their bad day on someone else. If you were offended, can't help that. Just putting it out there.
Thanks for the good advice on how do deal some of the money issues apart. Good food for thought.
Well then you shouldn't be offended by my comment about your lack of proper spelling and grammar. I mean, if you're offended, I can't help it. Just putting it out there.
I saw your post on TK. Maybe you shouldn't plan a vow renewal because your wedding wasn't what you envisioned. Then proceed to get mad and insult people when they tell you that the "second weddings" board isn't the place to post it. Way to make friends though.
Anyway, ditto everything else beachy said.
Please don't take the Focus on the Family advice to heart unless you believe in their (very conservative Christian) teachings and values. They may (or may not) have some good advice but take it as nothing more than suggestions and guidelines rather than firmament and solid advice.
I'm not military but was a military wife in a previous life. Check with your squadron, co-workers, friends or command for advice and guidance. My daughter's FI is deployed right now and they communicate regularly via e-mail, telephone (he bought an international cell for calls overseas) and Facetime on their iPads. Communication is key. There are also plenty of websites you and he can visit (beyond FOTF) that will give help and advice on how to navigate a deployment, separation and reunification.
Good luck to you and your H. (and for Pete's sake, never put a "don't use mean language" disclaimer as an opener to a post. It riles people. If they start getting bitchy, that's when you pull out the guns. Being "proactive" gets others to be "reactive" in return.)