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H is being such a douchebag.
So H is mad about something, which I don't know why because when I asked he said he wasn't mad about anything but he hasn't said two words to me since he's been home. Now I know he's hungry but in trying to prove some stupid point or something, since he's not talking to me, he didn't ask about dinner and he's sitting there eating potato chips and drinking a diet soda. He's such a pre-menstrual woman sometimes - I'm just ignoring him and not bother to offer him the spaghetti carbonara that I made. He's hungry he can find it in the fridge and heat it up himself. And the Midol is in the medicine cabinet!
Re: H is being such a douchebag.
I know that feeling my H does the same sometimes
Just be patient and be nice to him even though he is being like that you should show him how such a loving wife you are.
Maybe he really isn't mad at you but had a bad day because of something completely different and just needs some space?
Not everything revolves around you
H comes home in the worst moods sometimes. I tell him I love him and make sure if he needs anything I will take care of it. He says no I just leave him to his own devices. 9 out of 10 times he starts talking about what is wrong if I don't pester him about what is bothering him. I have a bad habit of constantly asking what is wrong which makes him clam up more but I have become much better.
Let him drink soda and eat potato chips. Not much you can do if thats what he wants at the moment.
Whether it's about you or not, if he had a bad day at work, got into an argument with a buddy, or whatever, that doesn't give him an excuse to treat you badly. You are his wife. If he needs you to leave him alone then ok, of he wants to talk, then ok. Either way, he needs to tell you what he wants. Men say they can't read our minds, well we can't read theirs either.
I know it seems fair but the midol probably won't help. You may want to give him a dose of his own medicine but if this were flipped, how would you react if he threw the bottle at you? Yes it is deserved, but not fair. Talk to each other. Invite him to talk to you, not demand, invite. No one wants to do anything they are demanded to. Even if it's leaving a little note on top of the spaghetti instead saying "I love you. Let's try this again, spaghetti carbonate Part II tonight
" Maybe the talk over dinner can be about how you can
avoid this argument next time. Create a plan. Talk about what irritates
him and you and how you both show your irritation? If he's irritated and
shows it by slamming a door when he gets home or isn't talking, then
you'll know what to do rather than be a deer in the head lights. And Vise verse, when you're mad, he'll know how to react.
I know it may seem tough and you may even think that this will only create a bad routine of coming home and not talking, but from personal experience, it gets so much better. If anything you're saying "help me help you," and you'll respect each other more.
Of course take all this with a grain of salt, as every relationship is different.
Hope that helps,
Sarah