May 2012 Weddings
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update on last post
we had a long talk about the whole thing and he understands my point of view although what he says is that once you have loved someone you never stop loving them...
anyways he got rid of all her stuff and has agreed to never speak of her again. (well at least not unnecessarily speak of her... i understand that he may have to mention her name in response to a question or something.....)
Re: update on last post
I agree with this...what kind of stuff did he have of hers?
I don't think I ever saved anything from a past relationship (mainly becasue the one I was in with H was the only one that actually meant something) And I think if I had something that I was holding on to from a past relationship, H would be really hurt about it since it would be like I was holding on to the past relationship/person too.
I honestly hope that your H doesn't bring her up in conversation again, but I honestly can't imagine him never speaking of her again. It seems like he was really attached and if he can't voice these feelings in fear that he may anger you, he may be more likely to do it behind your back.
I really think you both need to talk to someone, get it all out on the table, and figure out what this all means....
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I also agree with Spalko. Having loved someone and being in love with them are completely different and it could have just been bad wording on his part but I'd still be questioning it. I'm not sure about the stuff he threw away and why he really even had it but I too would like to know what exactly he had.
I wouldn't accept his answer but I would understand it. However that doesn't mean I just let it all go maybe just for a little while. I would still continue to talk about things with your H.
h i know the diffrence of IN love and HAVING loved but because english is not his first language im hoping that it is wording problems not well...yeah.
I try to keep it from myh mind and i dont really talk about it with him or anyone...i;m not sure what to say or do. i just keep thinking how it seems that he "settled" for me. the first one that came around since her.
he hasnt talked about her since but i understand that it just plain niave to think he never will or that his feelings poof change... what can i do though?