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What to do?
So today is MIL's birthday! And while I am actually super excited I get to spend it with her I know she is down and everything with all this other going on. She has also started to accept the fate that is coming soon and she is ready for it to all be over with.
H and I are planning to go get her favorite restaurant and bring it home for dinner. Also we are going to order a cookie cake. We want it to still feel like her birthday. BIL and SIL are coming over tonight to visit and I'm sure my house will be full all day of people in and out.
Do you have any suggestions of anything we could do to cheer her up or make it feel like a birthday still? She is completely bed ridden now and can't get out of bed so that makes it just that much harder for us.
Re: What to do?
How sweet of you! Happy birthday to your MIL!
My family is huge on gifts, so for any day to feel like a birthday for me, I would have to be tearing open a wrapped gift. Maybe you could even just wrap the cookie cake? It comes in a pizza box type thing. Or you could get her a real gift, like even just silly socks or something.
That's a hard one, maybe some flowers to brighten up her room or a new throw for the bed? Just try to make is special and be tolerant of the grand central station situation at your house.
I don't know her, but I know my father was in and out of the hospital a lot before he died (his death was unexpected- they were in the process of discharging him to home when he died) and was in for his last birthday. We got silly party hats (like the one's you wore at a party when you were kids) and those noisemaker things you blow into, and he thought it was hysterical, the nurses got a kick out of it too.
Flowers were my first thought and I LOVE the idea of party hats and noise makers!
Does she have a favorite movie that you could just chill out and watch with her? That might be fun since it's the two of you today.
I love the idea of getting her some flowers. But I really love the idea of bringing a lot of fun into her day and the fun hats and party makers I would think would do the trick. What about dressing up her room with streamers and balloons and things like that. Really make it festive.
Also, we got my Grandpa just some really silly ridiculous socks when he was in hospice before his passing and he thought those were the best things ever. He had to show everyone that came over to see him. Everybody is different but those are some great ideas for you that won't cost a whole lot.