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Husband HATES his job
I sort of dont blame him. He was an iron worker but as most of you know he hurt his back and needed corrective surgery. We opted to try other means of therapy for him which he is responding well with. Surgery is very scary ...monitarily wise and on the body as well. If he ever hurt his back again, he could paralyze himself and once surgery is done you have to be careful. We weighed a lot of options, saw a few more specialists until it was okay for him to go back to work. So he found a job as a mechanic (his original trade) before he was an iron worker. But this shop he is at is terrible. He is a level B mechanic..but they pay him on wrench hours meaning..each job he works is assigned a time value...so no matter how much time he is physically there, there are days he only gets paid for 2 hrs of work when he is there for 8.
His last 4 paychecks have barely been 600 bucks for 2 full weeks of work plus all the extra hours he stays to make more money. He is literally working for 5 bucks an hour as a level B menchanic w/ certifications and a inspectors license who should be making about 26 an hour up where we live
I feel stuck working 2 jobs right now because i want to make sure we are ok when we get in to our house. But he is so discouraged.
What other jobs could there be out there that actually pay...ya know.
I make a decent salary...but I worry when i have a baby that we wont be able to handle a house, bills, and a baby monitarily.
Anyone else the breadwinner?
Re: Husband HATES his job
I also make more than H and I worry about when we decide to have kids and having to take time off, etc. If we could, I would be a SAHM, but I don't think that will ever happen.
H has also been rethinking his career lately. He doesn't hate his job and there is room for advancement and more money, he just doesn't know if it's what he wants to do for the rest of his life. His dream would be to work in law enforcement, and I think he's afraid if he doesn't act now he'll eventually be too old to get hired.
I just do the best I can to support him and what he wants to do, although potential salary is always an issue.
We both work full-time 40 hours a week and DH makes a little bit more than me.
Maybe make up a list of money coming in and where money goes each month and see if you can actually afford to be the sole breadwinner right now. If you can't then I understand that you DH is unhappy at his job, but you have to make ends meet somehow...
Has DH looked for jobs in the area doing what he wants with better pay?
We both work full time. I make a little bit more money than H, but not a drastic amount. We are both in the same field.
If he is seriously unhappy, I'd do some in depth research about job fields that are in demand right now and keep in mind the average salary that goes along with it. See whether it is just the place he works at, or if the problem is widespread.