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so much going on
My H and I have been married a year and a half. the first year was great. but the last 6 months..... not so good
around our 1 year anniversary we started having problems and I felt like we made a mistake and wanted to get divorced. But we worked it out and went to counseling. Then he decided he wanted to move across the country. which I supported, and we moved. we talked about trying to have kids this coming November. Then my husbands younger brother died.
Which is awful and we're dealing with it. But its thrown a wrench into our plans. I feel very isolated here and don't have any friends yet (its been a month) and now he doesnt want to have kids for a while. He says we have had a lot going on lately and doesnt want any more stress. I'm trying to be supportive but I'm so disappointed and its adding to my unhappiness.
Re: so much going on
Do you guys go to counseling to deal with the grief from loss? Do you have a support system outside of your husband? Family or friends even if they live far away? Have you told your DH these feelings you have posted here? If so, how has he responded?
Have you thought about joining some local activities that you are interested in or volunteering in areas you like? That can get you out into the community to meet other people.
I second the grief counseling.
THe loss of a sibling is very very difficult --- if he is religious, another great idea would be to talk to a clergyperson.
I'm sure you have hobbies, interests and were fairly active in activities of your choice before you moved. Find out where the same type of intreests and activities are in your new locale; if you're keen on volunteeering, sign up to do some. It's a sure fire way to meet new people.:)