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I Found a Fun Online Quiz!!!
in Married Life
At this site about the Five Love Languages (a frequently mentioned book on here) you can take a 30 question quiz to see what your top love languages are. There is also a quiz for husbands. http://www.5lovelanguages.com/ See the "Take the Quiz" section at the bottom, middle in purple.
I scored: 9 on Quality Time, 9 on Words of Affirmation, 8 on Physical Touch, 3 on Acts of Service, and 1 on Gifts.
My DH scored: 9 on Quality Time, 9 on Acts of Service, 6 on Physical Touch, 5 on Words of Affirmation, and 1 on Gifts.
This is why when we are eating dinner together we are both happy (quality time), but I want him to compliment me on the meal I microwaved (words of affirmation) and he wants me to actually cook a meal (acts of service). LOL.
Re: I Found a Fun Online Quiz!!!
I took it and quality time was my highest.
I find it a little sexist tho. I read thru the mens quiz and it said something like "I like it when my wife helps with yardwork" and on teh womens it said the same thing only insert laundry for yard work.
They are assuming 1950's life styles.
Plus there was an abundance of ones regarding gifts. WTH?? are there that many people who need gifts to feel loved?
I think it's just a general quiz and to assume sexism is reading way too into this.
They had to choose something to get the "acts of service" language exemplfied. Yardwork and laundry are pretty typical household chores. And, while there are tons of people who do either/both (as DH and I do), there are lots of women who won't let their husbands near the laundry and there are lots of guys who like the yardwork whereas their wives are more "indoor types." This isn't sexist, it's just common in many households. Plus, they needed something that fit most couples. They could have gone with helping with the kids, but what if the couple is without children? Or, walking the dog, but what if they have no pets? Laundry and yard work are the best choices.
Why is needing a gift, or a TOKEN would be a better word, bad, as you have implied? They (the quizzers) aren't necessarily referring to pieces of jewelry. It could mean cards, garden picked flowers, a burrito from Chipotle, or hand-written notes. Some people are very tactile and having something to hold, read, eat or wear communicates to them best. This is not something they should be made to feel bad about. It's just the way they are.
Agreed.
My DH's top two love languages are Words of Encouragement and Gift Giving. I don't go out and buy him expensive things, he was thrilled when I went bought him new underware for work when I noticed his other ones were getting giant holes (he has a labor job that is rough on his clothes). I also write him notes and leave them somewhere he'll find them when I'm not around, that hits both words of encouragement and his gift giving needs. Even framing a picture of the two of us thrills him. It doesn't have to be anything expensive and it is certainly not anything that should be stereotyped as bad.