How do you find alone time?

KLAthome · July 2012

Hi,

I'd be interested to know how some of you manage to find alone time. Also, do you feel guilty about it?

I'd appreciate your thoughts and comments.

Thanks

cpm1223 · July 2012

H and I like to share time together, but we also enjoy doing things with our friends, families, etc.

When H and I first started dating, he'd go out with his friends (fishing, etc.) and I'd be home alone, in a town where I didn't know many people, so I was stuck doing nothing. Well it didnt' take long for us to argue about it and then talk about how important it was for the both of us to spend time apart (with friends or just alone) and it didn't mean we weren't happy spending time together, it was just a nice change sometimes.

Now, I'll go out to dinner or have drinks with the girls...or go shopping alone etc. and H will either find something to do, or just hang out alone at home. If we did every single thing together, I think we'd go crazy!

TarponMonoxide · July 2012

Everybody needs alone time.

To work on a hobby -- everyone needs an outlet -- and just to be by yourself.

Take a walk, go window shopping, see a movie by yourself, go to a bookstore or library and browse -- that's a few suggestions what to do alone.

bwazz09 · July 2012

I don't call it alone time, I call it sanity time! And I never feel guilty about it. I'm a SAHM and a full-time student so I need those breaks away. And my husband is really good about making sure I get them.

linseygrady · July 2012

I am a huge fan of alone time! I enjoy going for long walks, bike rides, reading books, painting, watching a movie alone or spending time with my elderly grandmother. I am currently engaged and that is the only thing i am currently worried about with my approaching nuptuals. Alone time is MUST for me.

CityMouseCountryHouse · July 2012

I think a conversation is in order. I know my SO and I touch base about our needs and we have been pretty open in discussing most topics, including that one. Ours is really a need to find time together as his job takes him away a lot (he is a trucker, LOTS of alone time there) but we also recognize that we each have need to be alone at times as well. If you guys have discussed it and came to an agreement about the subject it will be much easier to "find" the time.

It will be even more tricky if you two should decide to add kids to the mix some day. That is my biggest challenge. On that note, I take people (like my BIL or MIL) up on their offers to give me some time to myself. It doesn't happen with regularity but I'm not about to look a gift horse in the mouth when it does.

An agreement now may relieve some of your worries and if another broaching of the subject is needed post-nuptials it won't seem like the subject came out of left field.

Hope this helps.

honeybunni3 · August 2012

My boyfriend and I love to spend time with each other, but we do need the occasional break. So far, our alone time has been spent due to his work. He's been traveling alot, so I've been staying home taking care of my own stuff. But sometimes if he's home and I want to do my own thing, I just hang out with my friends. Or, if we don't want to go out, I watch tv in the living room and he plays video games in the bedroom. It kind of makes it feel like we're sort of separate but not really

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