Making new friends

JessRMC · July 2012

My husband and I have been married for 7 years. Our friends from college still live in that area and we moved to NC. We are still trying to figure out how to make new friends after college. Any ideas? We've tried meetup.

EUhew · July 2012

Have you tried going to any young professionals events? What's great about young professionals' events is that they have people that are usually between 24 and 35 years old and are more likely to share similar interests since many will have gone to college.

Doud2010 · July 2012

I totally understand. My hubbie and I moved almost 2 yrs ago from our college town. I have a long commute so its hard hanging with my coworkers and his coworkers all have busy family lives. I tried meetup once but didn't find a group I like, maybe I will try again for a group that does an activity like kayaking. We go out to the local ball game or wine tasting events and even though we can strike up a conversation with other couples we always feel weird and don't ask for their numbers. Maybe try some classes like sushi making or outdoor events that way you can find people that share your interests...might lead to something. Good luck, and I know I will keep trying to find friends too.

cpm1223 · July 2012

Do you have any neighbors that are your age? Or any co-workers?

My H talks to everyone...we met 3 different couples while we were on our honeymoon and hung out with them most nights. We met them while sitting at the pool...just hanging out, not really trying to make friends.

I really think, if you want to make new friends, you just have to strike up a conversation with someone! Maybe try some classes/events like PP mentioned to get yourselves out there to meet some people.

erollis · July 2012

Go to events, take a class, meet your neighbors basicly what everyone else has sugested. Just strike up converstations with people and see what happens. I have made a friend by waiting in line for a flight home. I heard her talking on the phone about the city she lived in and commented that I just moved there. Our seats even happened to be next to each other and we talked the entire trip. It was just meant to be.

I have only made one close friend and a close acquaintance since I moved 5 years ago. This is not due to a lack of trying to make friends. I am friends with all of H's friends who live in town, closer to some then others. We both have friends from our hometown that we keep in contact with and college friends who moved away.

Try not to get discouraged. Some people make friends easier then others. Some friendships also take longer to develop so be patient.

TheExPatBride · July 2012

I'd be your friend! haha

I've moved to England now and sometimes get discouraged, lots of acquaintances, but no really good friends like I had at home. But since my hubby grew up here, he has plenty....

buttaflai · July 2012

I just read this article:

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/07/15/fashion/the-challenge-of-making-friends-as-an-adult.html?_r=1&partner=rss&emc=rss

And thought that the writer was on point for a lot of it! It's much harder now, but we try to just meet people for specific interests to make it easier. I have friends who craft.. others who are into photography. Then there's the other expectant moms who have that in common with me to talk about. I'm trying like hell to keep the college friends as close as possible just because it's way easier to make acquaintances now!

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