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Need some advice
I have three children but two happen to be from my previous marriage. He gets them for half of the summer well he has two weeks on and two weeks off. When I had got my children back from him I had asked him who was watching are children when he worked he replied his girlfriend. I didn't find this to be such a big deal knowing that she has two kids that are the same as mine. Well a week into my children being home she start talking and making motions to stuff that was in a sexual nature. I asked her who taught her that (she is six years old). She then tells me her dads girlfriend. I had got really scared and called the police department to ask what i should do they told me to contact child protective services before I allow her and her brother to go back to there dads. So I did as they told me. CPS never even looked into it so I brought it up to the kids dad what his girlfriends had taught are child and he laughed. My daughter at six should not be doing this kind of stuff. I am really worried. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I should handle this
Re: Need some advice
Calling the police would be another good suggestion.
I don't know what is up with this -- or what the details or or what they saw but when you have doubts, CPS and then the cops, if needed.
Don't let the kids visit their dad after this until you find out exactly what the story is.
Maybe she saw something; who knows.
Wishing you luck. let us know what happens.
This. PLUS you need to call your attorney if there is visitation per divorce degree/Court Order. The last thing you need is to be found in violation of a Court Order while in the middle of sorting this out.
ALSO, listen to your children, write down what they say or do. But don't ask questions. Let the professionals do that. You also want to remove yourself from accusations that you "coached" them.
WOW.....wtf! Please tell me that you are trying to gain full custody of your kids and I would even say no visitation rights because there is definitely something going. It's not always the men that sexually abuse children and that is just sickening that your idiot ex is not doing anything to stop it or doesn't seem to care.
I can remember when I was younger - like 5th grade - there was a girl in my class that I was friends with...I once stayed over her house for a sleep over, and her mother and step father were in their room all night having very VERY loud sex. Mind you, they did not do anything to us, and I can remember we were the whole time like wtf - it was just weird. This was 25-26 years ago, but it is something that I will never ever forget. I never went to her house again after that and also never told my parents - I just was too embarrassed to say anything.
Then, same girl came in one day with bruises all down the side of her neck. When I asked her about it, she said she fell off her bike, but I knew she was lying, so I told my mother, who then called the school and the school did nothing.They actually told my mother to 'stay out of it'.
Fast forward a few years later - I don't know who reported it, but it came out that her step father had been sexually abusing both her and her sister for years. So she was sent to live with her grandmother.
Thanks to fb, she reconnected with me and one day she hit me up on the chat feature and mentioned about that 'incident'.....I just did not even want to talk about it because it was that uncomfortable. So yea....definitely do whatever you need to do and I would totally see about gaining full custody without visitation....f-that.
Absolutely you should have your son interviewed or checked into as well...I?m so sorry that you have to deal with this bs at all and really hope you gain sole custody. Good luck!
The very first thing I would do, is contact your courts and see who they use for their Child Psychiatrists/Psychologists/Therapists. Make an appointment with one of these professionals (they are already vetted by the courts) to "examine" your children (both).
Second, look at getting a Guardian Ad Litum (spelling - but its only 7am here in Germany and I havent had my coffee).
Next, a trip to their pediatrician for a really good exam.
HOWEVER, do not have any more indepth discussions about this with your DD, so there can be no accussations that you are leading her or creating parental allienation.