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First month marriage blues
Is it normal to be angry at your husband almost all the time during your first month of marriage?
Re: First month marriage blues
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I agree. We need way more information, but I would venture to say no. That should not be how your first month is.
I don't know. Maybe you're annoyed he's now in the bathroom when you usually get to use it all to yourself; maybe it's something else. Anything could be happening here.
Just what is it you are angry about?
I'm sorry for not giving much information when I first posted this thread. It's hard to seek advice when he's standing over my shoulder, y'know? But we've worked through the problem which was just stress over money issues. We've lived together for two years now and don't really have many problems anymore but money became an issue as the wedding date got closer and I've been extremely frustrated with him this month bc I know we're usually so careful with our money that it's hard to wrap my mind around us having problems with coming up with enough money to move.
He's usually so calm too so it was a shock to see him fall apart over this--I just felt so lost. But we're better now and with luck and lots of prayer we'll make it through this blasted move! Thanks for the advice though. I'm new to posting so I appreciate the fact that no one ripped into me.
My husband and I have known each other for about 9 to 10 years now and have been dating for 6 years. We just finally tied the knot after we focused on working out a lot of issues couples tend to have (like the bathroom issue mentioned in the replies).
I guess I just wanted to know if anyone else got this stressed out and frustrated easily just after their wedding (whether bc of their new spouse or other things)
Money tends to be an issue a lot of couples have. I'd suggest setting up a monthly budget and agreeing on how much to spend in certain categories, including savings. Build up a little emergency fund so something like this doesn't knock you on your add again. Money Matters can help you with your budget.
DH and I got in a big fight about spending habits our first year of marriage and we'd been together for 6 years, and lived together for 3. It happens, you just have to elarn from it and move forward.
I really don't want this to sound like a solicitation, but my premarital counselor recommended a book that really resonated with me. It talks about how the bickering/ anger in marriages is really a need for reassurance that you are important and valued. Its called Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, by Sue Johnson. I found it at my public library, but it was a pretty popular title, so I had to wait on it.
I think there is also a normal adjustment period, where you find your roles in marriage and get over minor annoyances. I think there is also a let down, after all the excitement of the wedding planning, and then it is over. We are going through a budget argument right now. I've been married about as long as you have, so I am not a huge expert.
Thank you. I'll be sure to look for that book. It sounds like it can help.