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Movie Theater shooting...
There are some sick people in this world. That is so scary. Those poor people, I can't even imagine what that would have been like. This seriously has to stop. You can't even go the mall, gym or movie theater without worrying about something like this. It's so sad.
Re: Movie Theater shooting...
So terrible. My heart breaks for all involved. It's just so sad.
Its very sad, children were even injured ( I read the youngest was a 3 month old)
And another injured was a 6-yr old. So hard for me not to give the side-eye to that, considering how tragic this situation is.
I know there are recluses, and I know not everything is obvious, but it should be interesting to see if there is a Blog or online manifesto from this sicko (sorry, but I think it's safe to judge and call names here). It all so senseless.
Like Sarah mentioned (being hyperaware now), I find I'm more hyperaware about my kids' business and things going on in their classrooms with other kids. I'm afraid of my oldest son internalizing things (he is very sensitive). I guess it's not a bad thing, though... ?
My three sons!
Between this and the attempted car jacking in the north hills this week, it definitely has me wondering if I'm as aware of my surroundings as I should be at times. I've always been good about being 'safe' in the obvious way - but now with kids, I'm so distracted and focused on them, that I'm really not as aware as to what's going on around us. It also makes me wonder what my instincts/reaction would be in those types of situations - as much as I'd like to think I'd be smart about it, who really knows how you'd react if your life is in danger or threatened.
It's all so very sad. My sister lives in Denver and is about 20 minutes from this area.
Why didn't anyone know what he was doing?!?!
Meghan, this just happened to me the other day. I took Noah to the dentist - which is in downtown McKeesport. It's safe during the day or we wouldn't go...but...as I was bent over getting Brody in his car seat a man came up right behind me on the sidewalk and until he was right there, I had no idea. He was just walking, but in that moment I realized that if he had been out to take my purse or whatever - I would have never seen it coming. I tend to be aware in certain situations, but there are times when I know I'm a sitting duck.
That is such an unsettling feeling! I keep thinking of so many scenarios like that. I know I generally do a good job of being aware, but I am also full off distracted moments, especially when I'm with my kids. All week I've been torturing myself with the thought of my car being taken with my kids in it. I'd like to think I'd go ape sh!t and scare the attacker off, but what if I was overpowered? What if in a panic I ran away? It's scary, and as much as I want to be normal/rational about these things, sometimes it's hard to do!
I agree.
Well I'm one that totally doesn't get the judgement a lot of people are putting out there about kids being at a movie at night. Sure, I'd bet a lot of us wouldn't be taking kids that age to a movie theater at night - but so what?
Of course we all judge to some degree, but at the end of the day we don't know anyone's personal situation. Innocent people are dead due to a senseless tragedy, so I can't understand how it's yet another opportunity to critique someone's parenting decisions.
Ditto. It may not be something I would do, but it's not as though the rampage was a known risk and they took their kids there anyway. That is the scariest thing, imo, that this could have happened anywhere, at anytime, under any circumstance. It's just so sad.
I meant no disrespect to the victims and I was not judging anyone. I was just shocked to hear just young kids were involved in this. It's a tragedy no matter anybody's age. Nobody no matter what their age is should have to deal with something like this.
I'm not trying to say anyone knowingly put a child in a dangerous situation. I would look at someone oddly for taking a 3mo to a midnight movie whether it was tied to a shooting or not. I think that's strange. As loud as those movies are, I would be worried about hearing damage for a child that young. I also would've thought it inappropriate for a 6yo to see any time of day -- what's it rated?
I feel terrible for the people involved, I was just saying that I too found the reports re: the young children who where there to be surprising.
I totally agree. Like I said, I feel bad for judging because it is tied to a tragedy like this. Of course no one expected this to happen - just like I wouldn't expect it to happen at a grocery store either.
And I agree totally that I don't know other's situations - I've learned a lot since being a parent about not judging other's re: bed sharing, etc. But I don't think it would EVER be appropriate to bring an infant to a movie theater, any time of day let alone at midnight. I'm sorry, but I think a premiere of a movie comes second to your child's needs.
My three sons!
That's my point - just because YOU think it's inappropriate to take a child to the movies at that age/time of night, doesn't mean someone else does, or even that it is. Maybe the kid was obsessed with Batman, and they took him there as a special treat. Maybe the parents of the baby were overwhelmed, at the end of their rope, desperate for a night out and thought their baby would sleep through the movie. Who knows, it's none of our business. And it's a movie theater, not a crack house. I'd be far more comfortable taking my child to a movie at night, than say for example, switching my child to be forward facing before age two, but I'm not going to be all, hmmmm, why is your child forward facing? to parents who choose differently. I don't know, I guess I'm just so sick of all the parenting/mommy wars that go on, and then to read so much criticism (not here) of these parents in the midst of such an awful tragedy, it really struck a nerve with me.
Really "not here?" B/c it seems like you're talking to me when you're quoting me
I think ppl here know I'm no mommy warmonger. I'm pretty middle of the road when it comes to my opinions on parenting, and even more flexible when it comes to how I address the parenting techniques of others. I guess there's a chance that a 6yo might want to see a Batman movie (although I really was questioning what it was rated), but I like Clare really had a hard time envisioning a scenerio in which it made sense to take a 3mo to a midnight movie like that. It appeared from what I saw that the parents had a slightly older child, and maybe they didn't have someone to watch the baby but they wanted to take that child. Being a mom of 2, I get it. Yet, I would still think you could convince your older child to wait to go see it another day, go with just dad, etc. Not b/c it was possibly dangerous, just b/c you have to accomodate the needs of your newborn and a crowded theater in the middle of the night doesn't sound like a calming atmosphere for a baby. I watched hours of news reports on this last night and shed many tears of empathy for the victims, but the 3mo baby thing just struck me as odd if I'm being honest.